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My ADHD spouse was diagnosed 5 years ago. It explained a lot for both of us. He started meds and therapy.

I have been supportive but have not gotten involved in treatment unless I was requested to get involved either by him and/or his therapist. It has not been easy. I know that he has tried different meds and combinations of meds but I do not know what he is taking. He doesn't go to therapy very often - he's too busy he says.

I found a site that is helpful to me to figure out why I let this happen to our marriage and what my part in it is.  This is what happened to me and may be happening to you if you try too hard at a difficult relationship. 

Just read this response in another post, Melissa's  response was in context  to respond to someone with a lot more on their plate due  than ADD spouse to life circumstances.  However reading this left me with questions on the "how to"  after another night  of being recipient of anger/blame behavior from DH with ADD for some minor problem.   The quote is....

my husband sent me links to this site so i could understand his adhd. i have ordered one book and i'm reading lots of the tools and treatments. i have recognised i was being quite nasty to him, although i think most people would say objectively that i put up with a lot.

It seems that my husband doesn't hear the noun in the sentence!  I know this sounds a bit crazy, but this is my life. When he does hear, his interpretation of what was said is not what is said. Yes, he has taken many hearing tests and everything is fine.  At this point he finally agrees that something is wrong, particularly when he hears me say things I've not said. I would like to know if this is all ADHD or is it signs of something else?

I really can't believe I am going to put this out there, but I have to get it out. Currently only my in-law's know (and my bff about the first...only recently). I will try to make this as concise as I can, but it will be long. Sorry.

My husband is constantly speaking very rudely to me when he feels he is not getting my full attention at the exact second he wants it.  There is an incident nearly every day its worse when he forgets to take meds or  before he takes his meds  in the morning but happens when he has had his medication too.

If I am busy doing something and don’t drop my activity right away and rush over to where he is to pay attention to what he want me to he makes some rude statement or gets mad and says “forget it”.....even if only a 30 second delay to when I was going to talk to him.

All my life, I've struggled with being able to explain myself. My thoughts, feelings, emotions (at times), a book or movie plot (maybe not understanding it?) you name it. I wonder if this is part of my ADHD, or is it something completely different? I'm curious to know if anybody else has struggled with this, and if so, what are your coping mechanisms or ways of getting around this? I've thought of drawing the picture out on paper, but I SUCK at drawing, or art in general.

I'm a 28 y/o husband/new father (first one just a few days ago!!) and have been married for 4 years. I started reading the ADHD Effect and I'm loving it. However, I can't help but feel saddened and frustrated during this otherwise joyous time. I feel like all the progress I felt like I made with my wife's and mine relationship has been crumbled back to square one.

I have been spending a lot of time reading and reviewing comments and experiences on here over the past few weeks. I believe I may have stumbled on to some concepts that may lead to a better understanding of my situation. My wife was diagnosed with ADHD about 2.5 yrs. ago at age 41. You can read my earlier posts for the detailed background if you are interested. I am sharing this now at a very early stage in the hope it may spur some discussion to further develop the concept, or disprove it altogether. Let me know your thoughts.