I think the core disagreement in my marriage stems from the things that one of us does or believes in that the other doesn't. I believe that problems must be talked about and addressed; my husband doesn't. My husband believes it's OK to shut down communication with me (i.e., not talking or texting for weeks at a time); I don't think this is OK.
Do you have a core problem or difference? What is it?
Here's one more question for everyone. Do your ADHD spouses always complain like my husband does? The complaints can be about ANYTHING, but usually they are about people/family members and how we all drive him crazy. Sometimes I don't think he's happy unless he is complaining about someone else, whether it's in the family or at a job. He doesn't try to practice saying GOOD things that would help him "feel" better in the long run. He is ALWAYS complaining about us to other people, which later on usually gets back to me, but it makes me feel AWFUL.
Well I can't say I'm looking forward to this long Memorial Day weekend at the motorcycle track with H and SD. H wants to leave on Friday afternoon, but I can't take the day off. I can get off early and be home by 1PM but I can see him saying he'll just load up the truck and hook up the trailer and pick me up at work on the way down. I want to come home and shower and just generally make sure the house is in decent shape before leaving for 3 days.
What do you think of this statement? Anyone have thoughts?
"There is something in the most inhumane part of human nature that enjoys hurting smaller and weaker beings, particularly if they annoy us or make demands on us."
This was said by someone with ADHD. It has been haunting me ever since I heard it.
Hello all,
I've been lurking on this site reading posts and getting some support for a lot of the issues that my husband has, but of course, no two situations are exactly alike, so I've finally come to the conclusion I needed to get on here and ask a question myself.
Hi everyone
So H worked OT last weekend. 6 hours on Saturday for time and a half and 7 hours on Sunday for double time. That amounted to 23 hours extra that was going on his paycheck. Great! However, then he took both Monday and Tuesday off for what I am assuming he felt he deserved for his weekend that he never got. Well there goes 16 hours of the extra 23 you were supposed to have which left him with 7 extra hours on his paycheck. Then I get home last night and he tells me all about the crappy day he had.
Hi. I'm new to this forum but I'm glad I found it.
My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 2 years and he is the absolute love of my life and the man I will marry and have a family with. We've overcome many obstacles with his ADHD and are still learning to work things out. However, there are a few things that have consistently been a struggle. I'm hoping you all can enlighten me with some other strategies.
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