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In the spirit of making lemonade out of the lemon of a marriage that I ended up with (29 years on Sunday!), I'm trying to think of what I'd advise people contemplating marriage to talk to their prospective spouses about.  This is not intended to bash people with ADHD.  I think EVERYBODY should give more thought to marriage before they take the plunge.  Here are some things I've come up with; please share your thoughts, too!

Talk about your plans.  If your prospective spouse recoils at the words "plan" and "future," take note.  

Hi everyone. I am new to this board and found it after someone recommended my boyfriend of 2 years (we'll call him Andy) be evaluated for ADHD.  After reading several books, prowling forums, and reviewing research articles, I am wondering how I have missed all the signs and symptoms for two years!  Fortunately Andy has agreed to go through with an ADHD assessment and (hopefully) treatment but I have some questions for all the non-ADHD partners who have years of experience under their belt because, right now, I feel a little like Alice tumbling down the rabbit hole...

i recently uploaded a forum under another topic explaining that some people close to me dont fully grasp or undertstand my relationship with my partner who has ADHD... i am not married and am rather young however i love my partner very much.

As I sit here tonight, reading through the forum, pissed off at my ADD husband for being a total jerk this week, I just realized something: I USED to be fun. I used to love to dance and sing and laugh and drink a little too much sometimes. I used to be carefree and have an opinion, a voice. That was the girl that was so attractive to my now husband. I am now a shell of that person. I am the responsible one in our relationship.

I need his income information for our taxes and his father is his employer. He refuses to call his father/job and get the info and since we're traveling we can't access the form that was sent to our home. I asked him to call the job and get it faxed or emailed to us or just ask them the numbers. I am doing my taxes myself (joint), he has not done his for his country yet.

Here's another question for everyone. My ADHD husband usually never goes to bed before 3 a.m.   I've seen other posts about erratic sleep schedules for those folks who suffer from ADHD, but was just wondering about the rest of you folks here. Are your schedules the same? When we were first married, I used to stay up with my DH so that we could go to bed together and maybe have some romantic time together, because he would never "do it" during the day. (sorry, don't mean to be graphic) But, regardless of how much or how little work he has, he will NOT go to bed earlier.

I was just googling my new medication and I saw an ADHD and Marriage site. I thought that's cool.  Maybe they would have ideas for my and my husband. We are very happily married and he is ok that I come from the "dark side".  I am afraid of some of these comments!  So my "type" shouldn't get married?  Is this an anti ADHD cult?  I would love to chat, but I am afraid!!  Just so y'all know, my type is not evil....  

hi i am new to this website and it is such a great website and very helpful!!

Hello everyone.  I have been married to my ADHD wife for four years and we have an 18 month old daughter together.  She was diagnosed as a child and only temporarily tried medication.  We have both always acknowledge her ADHD, but I am only now beginning to understand it.

I have been with my significant other with ADHD for almost 2 years. He recently got back on his meds, so things have been getting a little better. One major issue we have and cannot seem to fix is being intimate together. My spouse has never been in a relationship until we started dating, and has never had any sexual relations with anyone before me. He says he gets major anxiety about doing anything sexual with me and avoids it completely.