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I am trying a new way of dealing with my significant other's funk/drama/blaming me for his negative feelings. He is depressed because he is having a lot of trouble getting a job. Yesterday was our anniversary and he sat home (we don't live together) and moped because he got a job rejection. I am sad for him, and supportive, and didn't give him a hard time. Since he feels bad about himself, he is blaming our relationship, the people who aren't hiring him, etc. for his unhappiness. He has untreated ADD symptoms and is not seeking help.

I could make this out to be a really long post, but to get to the crux of the matter I feel like my husband, deep down (or not so deep down), really does not want to work.  He has a very low-paying job at a hotel right now, which I think he has managed to stick with for the last 4 years because his boss is, in a very dysfunctional way, his "friend."  The job is also lower stress than a lot of other jobs, and hubby gets to bring his Nintendo DS to work to play with most days.  He still complains how much he hates the job, however, and the customers, and his boss, and so on.  He hates everyth

Hi,

I am the wife of my ADD Husband. We live in New Zealand and therefore why I am asking for advice on what medications have been found that may work better than Ritalin. My husband has not taken anything since us shifting to a rural town, but he is now keen to get back on track. I have read a bit about Wellbutrin, is this a common medication? Any advice would be greatly appreciated :-) Thank you, Melita

In our last angry discussion, my spouse growled at me, "What do you ever do for me?"  I said, "I do your laundry. . . .", and he cut me off before the whole word 'laundry' got off my lips and said, "I don't need you to do my laundry.  I can do my own laundry."

First off, I have to make a confession that I honestly had no idea the depth and effect that ADD/ADHD can have on a relationship when I began dating my wife.  Sure, I knew people who were "ADHD" growing up, and even a few as adults, but for the most part they seemed happy, adjusted, and vivacious individuals who were also succeeding at their jobs or careers.  

2. NOT BEING ABLE TO SHUT UP IN PUBLIC

There are many aspects of ADHD that I think can be managed, tolerated and worked-around. I have yet to have the privelage of going through Melissa's counseling sessions (financially strapped). Until then, here are a few out of the MANY issues I deal with with my ADHD spouse that I am looking for a workaround for. Anyone, including Melissa, found a solution to any of these?

My Husband was just diagnosed about 2 months ago with ADHD (the combined type). We have been married 2 1/2 years and together for almost 4 years. I just don't feel like we have a relationship anymore and I'm not sure we ever really did since we rushed too much in moving in together and we got married after only knowing each other 1 year and a half. I feel too much like we're just room-mates who rarely talk to each other. I'm really tired of feeling like I'm the only one who ever makes the decisions and initiates sex or conversations.

I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was very young.  I went to private catholic school my grade school years and took ritalin every morning and at noon.  As well as counseling.  This continued into my teen years through middle school and high school.  I am also a only child.  Here is what annoys/angers me.  I feel as though I am very different from the rest of the world.  The thoughts always racing through my head, sometimes very irrational according to my wife of 10 years.  She says I make myself believe stuff and make up things to fill in the gaps, when I don't have all the information.  I h