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My husband (ADHD) finally let me go to his doctor appointment with him. I knew he had not told his doctor everything that was going on (forgetfulness, distraction, shutting himself off from the world, etc.) mainly because he didn't realize how it was affecting our marriage. Let me back up a bit: just before Christmas we had a huge fight and we both said things we hadn' t said before. Deep painful emotions came out and a separation was brought up. We decided to play nice to get through the holidays and talk some more after. So, we talked and really said what was in our hearts, good and bad.

My husband and I went through a very difficult time over the past 2 years, but especially the past year.  I diagnosed him myself with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).  I am a nurse, but not a mental health professional.  It just seemed to fit.  I couldn't figure out any other explanation.  However, some things really didn't fit.  I just thought maybe his case was mild.  My dad, however, has NPD, but his is severe, bordering psychosis.  Children of parents with NPD are usually drawn to others with NPD.  I thought that I had found myself in that situation.  It turns out I was wrong. 

My name is Summer (36) and my husband is Scott (31).  I have 2 daughters (13 & 10) from a previous marriage and we have a daughter (8) and son (5).  We live near Cincinnati, OH.  My husband has ADD.  I never really knew much about it when I met him.  He was taking Adderall when we met, but stopped soon after.  Everything seemed right in the world when we met.  He was hyperfocusing on me and feeling the euphoria of being in love.  I told him I thought he didn't need Adderall, but just liked the effect of it.   I thought he was just abusing it and encouraged him to quit taking it.  

I'm reading that many of you are being treated for depression and I was wondering how you knew when to get treatment for yourself?  I'm not only dealing with a difficult marital situation but I'm also going through hormonal changes (I'm 48 and have been having perimenopausal symptoms for 7 years) so I'm never really sure what is causing my depressed moods.  I have days where I don't know how I can go on but then I've never missed a day of work and can always manage to pick myself up and accomplish whatever has to get done.  Usually my worse days are after a busy work week and then I tend to

I put up with my husband verbal abuse for over 27yrs.  I always hoped things would get better but he never changed.

Just joined the forum last week after reading posts from lauriejs and many others, and wishing I had found this place a long time ago.  I've suspected my husband might have ADHD since last summer; suspicions increased when I found out his 13 y.o. daughter from his first marriage had been diagnosed with the same. 

I have never posted before…...husband self diagnosed add and went and got on meds after our kids were born. Unfortunately his prescribing and treating Dr did not tell him to discuss it with me and or the impact add likely had on our marriage. It would have explained and helped a lot.

My new insurance covers individual therapy/counseling, but not couples (which we need but can't afford.) I have been thinking about going to therapy on my own, but wonder if it is worth it. I will probably just talk about my spouse and how his ADHD has affected our marriage. Has anyone gone on their own? Is it beneficial?

My husband was diagnosed with ADHD about 7 months ago.  He was only diagnosed because I screamed at him to get tested.  Three different therapists over the last 10 years have stated they think he has ADHD but he never did anything.

All the same symptoms.  He is textbook inattentive. I'm lonely.  No help or at least consistency with pretty much anything but his job.  And his job he hyper-focuses so that pretty much leaves no room for anyone but him.  He is so self-centered that I just want to slap his face. (I will not and never have but the urge IS there.)

I am reading a good little book called, "Soul-mates.  How to Find Them and Keep Them." Here is an excerpt I would like to share which I can sense is what has happened to our marriage: