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I just recently found this site and have been reading. I've only found one other poster, ChaosQueen, who has said that they were in a double AD(H)D marriage and just like her I read so much that is relevant to my situation but none that share the larger more complicated picture of being in a double ADD marriage. Is there anyone else out there...

Hello, I'm new here and have never written on a forum before. I was diagnosed with ADD about 7 years ago, I was given drugs to "help", but I was never told I should also explore other methods of self-help. My husband was more recently diagnosed with ADD but because he was also deeply depressed, nobody has paid attention to the ADD. If I share all my horrific details, this will go on forever! I guess what I mainly want to say this...If you are thinking about separation; DON'T do it. If you are thinking about divorce; please don't.

I finally left my husband of 13 years. He is being a total nightmare.  I would love to hear from other women who have left their ADHD husbands for support. I've left him in May this year and we divorced a month ago. We had no money to split , no property to fight over, but we have 2 beautiful children 13 and 10 who we have both adored. My ex is being mad. He is threatening me, if I see him (which is hardly ever but it happened a few times in the summer and recently again in front of the kids;  he torments me asking for the kids' things all the time..

My husband is the ADHD partner.

My dad and brother were both ADHD so I went into the marriage already knowing a little about it, and on top of that I've listened to my husband's descriptions and done hours upon hours of my own dedicated research.  However--there are some aspects of being in a marriage with an ADHD partner that no amount of research can prepare you for.

Does anyone have any experience with a spouse that has ADHD, OCD and anxiety? My wife has been diagnosed with all of them. Early on in our marriage we had a lot of issues. My temper being a very big one. I have tried numerous meds over the past 6 years and the last 2 settled on Cymbalta. I LOVE IT!!!! It has made such a difference in how I react. I still go to therapy every week for myself. I don't know how to work with my wife. She is on Adderall and just started taking Wellbutrin for the 5th time this year.she likes the high the meds give her.

So much is written about the non-ADD partner's anger and resentment. But I've found very little about what to do when the ADD partner accumulates these emotions. And that is where I live. Is this part of anyone else's experience?

I just need to vent!  Recently I realized that while I have been struggling with our issues the last 3 months she has been working on her communication and relationship with her ex---for the sake of their son.  I new something else had captured her attention!  I saw it and felt it!  She becomes so focused on what she thinks is right that she just blurts out what is going in in HER life without thinking how to include me or how it might hurt me!

I used to love watching TV and it was one of the things me and hubby have in common. We've been married 14 years. Early in our marriage. We used to live to watch TV together. But I've come to realize it seems to be the thing he's closest too. I used to suggest doing other things with our time. Like board games. He did play a couple of times with me  but he was miserable doing it. The last time I suggested it. I had set up a table with 2 cups of hot chocolate & whipped cream and set up a game of backgammon. It looked so inviting too.

My husband was diagnosed with ADHD several years into our marriage.  I often feel lonely, ignored and frustrated with his moodiness.  He is either extremely up (child-like, hyper, annoying) or extremely angry and crabby.  There seldom is a middle ground and I find it very difficult to deal with.  I consider myself a very even keel person so it is tough for us to relate at times.  Any advice on how to help him stabilize moods? He is on medication.