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We have been married for 14 years.  I came into the marriage with a history of depression.  There is no question that the holidays have been a trigger of sorts bringing me into low moods.  However, my wife comes from a family significantly affected by ADHD.  She has all of the hallmarks of it - hyperfocus, distractibility, forgetfulness etc... 

I wanted to share this in case it's relevant and helpful for anyone else out there, and also because I'm so happy about it...

My relationship with my long-term ADHD-diagnosed partner has had the most remarkable breakthrough. 

It began when we read a book called "Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls" by Robert Burney. Then, individually, we did some telephone counselling with the author. There's also a website: www.joy2meu.com

Hello all.

How does one forgive?  I have separated from my husband and I feel confident that my decision to do so was wise.  But I realized tonight that the resentment and anger that I feel toward my husband are somewhat hindering my life.  I can't and don't want to forget that my husband did things that hurt me and that some of those actions were intended to hurt me.  But the resentment and anger also hurt me (and seem to have no effect on my husband).  Any suggestions?  Thank you.  

This is my first time posting but I've been reading this site for more than 4 years. I've been with my husband for 8 years, married for almost 4.  He has ADHD and is on medication.  He isn't hyperactive at all, but he has issues focusing and I'm guessing he has a learning disability as well.  Other than taking medication, he does little else to learn or understand his ADHD.  He never reads this site even though I've asked him to several times. 

My ADHD partner started taking Adderall for his ADHD about 18 months ago. He started at a low dose (20 mg, I think) and seemed to do well. He was much less forgetful, more focused, and seemed more productive and happier as a result. However, when he and his doctor decided that the dose was too low and upped it to 40 mg, I started noticing personality changes: wild mood swings, violent temper fits, paranoia, and general agitation, especially in the early am and late pm when the drug wasn't in full effect. I called his doctor with my concerns, but he quickly dismissed them.

Well I read many stories on this website only to be reminded of my own. I am 24, married for a little over two years to my husband. We have a beautiful 10 month old daughter together. After months of for myself, and depression diagnosis, from post partum to possible mild bipolar disorder. It just dawned on me today, that the only person in which i have deep white hot anger for is my husband!!!

I just found this website a few days ago and have been reading through all the posts and it's scary how well they describe my life.  My husband and I have been married for almost 7 years and until recently I really had no understanding of ADHD.  We were both in our 40's when we met and he told me about his disorder, but he also said it had improved as he had gotten older and he no longer needed meds (which had caused some side affects, thus he stopped taking them before we met).  I really didn't think much of it and proceeded with the relationship as if there were no problems to deal with (

This is my first post here.  A brief summary of my situation:   For over 3 years I have been in a long distance committed relationship.  Our relationship has been tough for the past 2 years because of the distance, the fact that he was out of work for 18 months, which meant all visits were done by me, and the fact that he has a sleep disorder (long sleep syndrome) which means he often sleeps for very long periods of time (12-15 hours is not uncommon)...even during my once a month weekend visit.  Anyway, after trying every which way to express my unhappiness and feelings of not being appreci

I am a non-ADHD husband and I am really struggling to find any kind of hope to keep me motivated to stay positive in my marriage.  If it weren't for our two gorgeous boys, I think I would be long gone. After years and years of feeling like it's all up to me, I think I've finally reached my limit.