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Since reading Dr Orlov's wonderful book, I've been working hard to alter my behavior and not nag and criticize the way that I'd become accustomed to doing about all the weird things my partner does that never seemed to change. It's been a challenge but has been very rewarding to know that there is something I can do besides stay after her for her neglect of me, her forgetting things constantly and many other small things that go on and on. Things initially got better and we were discussing finding a therapist for her. We also argued far less, not much at all. Then things worsened again.

I discovered my adhd 1 week after my partner left me, after she told me why she left me. I am now diagnosed with ADHD at age 25 but she just doesn't understand or want to try, I had to understand her social anxiety but she can't understand this.... I am now medicated and a "better" version of myself, I am in therapy and making huge improvements :-) is it wrong that she doesn't want to try and at least see if I have changed? even after she told me she still loves me 

So I know this is such a childish thing for me to do but I wanted to prove a point, and I think I have....

It's been over a year since I left my ADHD/psychopathic ex. He married less than a year after we split up, and he and new wife are moving soon, out of state. I actually spoke to her a few days ago -- she is very nice and probably as unsuspecting as I was. Her former passed away, and I felt sorry for what she is going to be facing, sooner or later. When I saw him today from a distance, there was no emotion. He had been so abusive. After splitting up, I used to tremble. I had to go to counseling for anxiety. I lost every shred of self-confidence I had.

I Googled "husband takes me for granted".  I found this article that exactly tells what is going on in my marriage.

http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/NEWSLETTER%20ARTICLES/women_tak...

What was just said to me was just too good not to share.  My very-soon-to-be-ex who did something unprovoked and intentionally very hurtful tonight actually had the audacity to say to me after I got upset and was in a bad mood that I should be aware of how my being upset is MAKING HIM FEEL and that I should be ashamed of WHAT I AM DOING.  This stuff just CANNOT be made up.  At moments like these it sometimes hard to accept that this is really happening.  That someone is actually thinking and feeling such ridiculous things.  I just can't even believe it.  This can't possibly be my life.  Thi

I am in a marriage with someone with ADHD. 

This is the first time I've ever written in a forum about this.

I've read through hundreds of the stories here and felt like I've had read about my life for the last 10 years.

The last two days I have driven around town looking for an apartment for my son and I to move into because I (and my anxiety) can no longer take living with my ADD husband. He is undiagnosed but if he does not have ADD/ADHD...then he must have some high functioning autism.  I'm not quick to "internet diagnose"...but the stories on this forum are wayyyyyy too familiar.

As I sit here, I'm actually crying. The last two weeks..everything changed. Before these two weeks, we were so happy...

I was in a committed realtionship for two years to the most amazing individual i have ever met she was smart funny beautiful caring everything i wanted in a partner. one wednesday (78 days ago) i came home and found her bags packed :-( i was a mess! yes we were having problems but i didnt think they where this big... she told me she was just burnt out and that she still loved me but just couldnt see a future with me i was/am heartbroken here is the women i was planning to marry saying we didnt have a future. she says it was because of my controlling and codependent behaviour.