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I have been with my husband for the past 10 years. We have been married for the past 3. Ever since we got married, the neglect and childish behavior has been too much for me to deal with. Compounded with his substance abuse problems and I have to ask myself, what am I getting out of this relationship. I have a history of my own substance abuse problems and I have the residual low self-esteem that goes with it. After my own treatment and therapy to avoid relapse, I am getting better.

My ADD husband and I have had a very rock relationship for a few years now. In the past, I've been the one to arrange for us to see therapists to try and work on our marriage. A few months ago I told him that it was now his turn to set up an appointment for us to get some counseling -- that I wasn't going to be responsible for it again. He promised me that he would, but nothing has happened. I've brought it up several times, but he has always responded that he doesn't have any time to make calls or that he is too busy with work right now.

Only your thoughts can endanger your happiness. Telling yourself a miserable mental story about your circumstances creates suffering. Telling yourself a more positive and grateful story, studies show, increases happiness.

I am the somewhat obsessive spouse of ADD husband. I am trying very hard to grow out of the venting, complaining, unhappy person I have become. Here is what I am trying to learn and how I am trying to change my thoughts:

Hi Everybody,

Please help!

I am the non-ADHD male, and my ADHD girlfriend of two plus years has me at wits end.

I recently got married to the most wonderful man who treats me like gold.  Geeez I am not sure where to start but I do have to fix my problem uncontrollable temper or my marriage will be over quickly.  First off my husband lives In the USA and I'm in Canada , I am supposed to be moving there in a month ,that is if he ever forgives me :(    I will tell you about this tantrum or whatever it's called, I turn into a monster, someone I don't like in the least I say hurtful things that I don't mean.  Like this time he drove 6 hours to meet me.

I am married for over 30 years.  About 8 years ago.. he found he has a good bit of ADHD .. now gets meds and sees a doc as a coach.

BUT.. his actions do not show that he is trying to help the marriage.

He is likely going bankrupt...he won't tell me enough about our money for me to know what is real and what he is just saying to scare me . 

I have just found this site and other information on marriage and adult ADHD and I can't believe how much rings true to my own experience over the last 9 years.  I've been married for almost 8 years, and have two fantastic daughters, ages 2 and 4.

Hi, my story is probably similar to many others here: undiagnosed ADD that progresses to diagnosed but untreated ADD that progresses to a burnt out non-ADD spouse. A little over a year ago I completely lost my mind--years of financial strain b/c my husband couldn't maintain adequate self-employment and refusal to get a formal job, his "checked out" lack of presence as a husband and father (unless he wanted sex!), staying up late watching movies, refusal to get help for himself or us etc. etc.

Hi I'm new to this forum.  Thanks for allowing me to contribute my story.  My six year marriage has been on the rocks for awhile now.  My wife has ADHD and I'm the non-ADHD spouse and it's been pretty awful.  I believe that dating an ADHD person is really great but being married to an ADHD person is awful.  And I'll explain why.  When dating an ADHD person, they hyperfocus on the new relationship 100% and it feels really great!  However, once the hyperfocus shifts to something else like a new career, then the ADHD person starts ignoring, abandoning, neglecting and abusing their partner.  Th