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Hi i am 26 and my partner was last week diagnosed with adhd after struggling with it his whole life. His relationship with his mother has also broken down. I am so relieved to be on the way for him to be getting help but i think i need help myself. I know he cant help leaving the lid off the milk, being extremely messy, stressed,angry and all the other adhd traits which drive me around the bend.

This was going to be a "My Story" post, but my story is really just beginning. 

My wife and I have an 11 year old daughter and 8 year old son.  We had been married 4 years before having kids, and there didn't seem to be any significant issues during this time.  After having kids, I believe things really changed.

I am glad to have found this website. However, I do wonder if after 6 years things are too late for us. I am a new member, but in reading previous posts I am absolutely amazed by how similar the stories (pieces here and there) are to my own. One key difference though is that my husband is a non-American and for so long I thought was I was dealing with a cultural phenomenon. Although all his older brothers are government officials, responsible, and goal-oriented.

Have you every noticed that your ADHD spouse will only laugh in social situations if they are the joke teller?  My DH actually glares at others when a joke is told and the group laughs.

And his jokes never make sense in the situation and just unsettle everyone.  He can't tell the difference between real laughter and fake uncomfortable laughter.  

This only happens around groups that are not in the core circle.  With family he is fine, people we have known for years he is fine, but new groups he just tries to upset everyone.

I have named this forum as the first step because I have finally admitted to myself that I have a serious problem and I will be seeking advice to see if ADHD is the cause.

I was watching the movie 'Jerry McGuire' this evening.  A romance scene comes on the screen, my spouse slams down the footrest of the recliner, jumps out of the chair, and grumbles, "I'm going to bed."  

A few minutes later I hear the upstairs shower.

Uh Oh.  It dawned on me that I had taken down the shower curtain this afternoon and washed it, then forgot to put it in back up.

I ran upstairs and said through the closed bathroom door, "Hey, sorry, I forgot to get the shower curtain out of the wash machine."

I am not quite sure, but I am wondering if my non ADHD husband has become slowly but surely more and more emotionally & psychologically abusive with me over the years.

I'm really struggling with something here folks, and I hope there is someone out there who can provide a little clarification. My wife was diagnosed 3 years ago with ADD, after struggling with depression for 10 years before that. I was excited, and, believe it or not, happy to finally have a diagnosis, and a course of treatment that I thought, by all indications and suggestions by her doctor and many other ADD experts, would improve her condition and the quality of our life.

After one of these grueling arguments/discussion, I really wish I had it recorded, so I could have someone else look at with non-bias towards my ADHD spouse nor I, and tell me if I am missing something.

I have been dating my now fiance for almost 3 years now. It has been some road, let me tell you! During that time we have argued, more about him being impulsive, and unable to save money. His diagnosis came 3 months ago, when I pretty much said,"if you dont go and talk to a professional, I am out the f***ing door." He went. The diagnosis hit me like a ton of bricks. I was upset that I didnt force him to seek help sooner. I was upset that his parents never questioned it for him to have been diagnosed sooner.