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My husband and I are 35.  He was diagnosed with ADHD 6 months ago.  We married at 22, right out of college.  He is a genius, who did very well at a top-notch college (at that time, top 15) despite putting little effort into his studies.  Being young when we married, I believe I was reasonable at that time to believe that he would do well in life because of his obvious academic talents.  I graduated from the same top school as my husband, also doing well, but deep-down all I ever really wanted to be is a mother who was the glue behind a great family and a confident man.  It is not about the

As the wife of a man recently diagnosed with ADD, I want to know when do I get to stop being him mother?  When do I get to stop having to clean up behind him?  When do I get to stop being the only mature, responsible person in my home?  When do I get to stop hurting, crying loosing sleep?  Is it wrong to feel that everything is all about him, while I'm the one suffering?

I have been with my husband for about 3 years now and we have a 14 month old son together.  As I have read a lot on the site, our courtship was amazing.  I came from an abusive relationship and thought that I had finally found Mr.

I once was loved. Before marriage, I felt loved by family, friends and the universe and saw beauty and synchronicity all around me.  

Hi, 

I'm married to a wonderful man who was diagnosed about 4 years after we were married with ADHD.  His mother still don't want to believe that he has this.  

I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, and find it a burden. My first marriage ended after eleven years of my undoing. I felt that my wife was enabling me not to manage my ADHD. I have been in a relationship now for just over a year and I have no objective data as to why I am different in my current relationship. people with ADHD do very well at the tasks they like doing and poorly at the tasks they don't like doing. I characterized myself as having a T-1 personality to conflict, but I am functioning at maintaining a T-0 level.

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Hi, fairly new here.  I recently rediscovered this site in an attempt to figure out what is going on with my marriage.

I am reading "To Love and be Loved" by Sam Keen.  He says: "Once our attention is captured, a love story develops only if we escalate the contact by a decision to pay attention... The decision to pay attention to someone is the first act of self-limitation, the first sacrifice, the first gift we make in the name of love."