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DH and I have been having conflict about getting out of the house in the morning--2 small kids, lots of stuff, etc. DH is also very, very contentious in general. We had a fight about mornings yesterday but this morning I thought things were okay, but he seemed to be really anxious and jumpy even though we were both running on time. He was showered and dressed, I was not, but was getting toddler's breakfast ready. Usually I also get the baby at the same time, but hadn't yet. so he says he'll get the baby.

I seem to be constantly trying to craft a sentence in my mind of how I feel and what I've done and what I want.  I found this online and paraphrased it and seem to be able to attach it to my self.  

"I have borne the consequences of my spouse's irresponsibility. I have exhausted every means of restoration. I have loved without reservation. I have returned good for childish, uncaring attitude and lack of commitment. I have sacrificed my dignity and self-respect for the sake of my household.  I have done more than most would do."

Are there different levels to ADHD?  My husband (although undiagnosed) has ADHD -- I'm positive about that based on the symptoms but he doesn't exhibit as much severity with it in some areas as other people do.  Yet, he is a poster child for it in other ways.   He does household chores -- many, in fact.   But he is so distracted when driving, it scares me.  AND -- he rides a Harley Davidson sometimes too.  He kept the same job for 20 years, then moved to another area and has had 7 jobs in the last 2 years.  He's spontaneous and fun but can become angry over the most trivial things.  Yet, ot

I have been married for 3 months to the most wonderful man I have ever met.  However, he has changed drastically since the wedding.  In just 3 months, I have gone from being the best thing ever to feeling like he doesn't love me like he use to before the marriage.  My husband is 53 and extremely ADHD.  I am a teacher and I know what ADHD is in middle school children but I'm not sure how to handle it in a marriage.   I tell him he acts bored with me -- because it feels that way.  How can I avoid this abandonment feeling?  He says I get on his nerves asking him for reassurance repeatedly.  Bu

My spouse lost/misplaced his wallet . . . again.

He asked me for some cash and my debit card to use for the day.  I gave him some cash, but told him I needed my debit card.  He left.  He is 'pretty sure' the wallet is here - out in the yard, out in the barn, lost among all the junk back there.

My stomach is in knots.    Who takes care of the money/finances in our home - yep, it is me.

Grrr.....

My husband is always complaining that I don't cook.  My children are grown and I spend a lot of time after work at the gym because I prefer not to be around him in the evenings.  Sunday night I came home after a hard workout and made a big pot of soup.  To make a long story short, he walked in, looked at the soup and told me he was going to my mother's for leftovers.  I actually had the expectation that he would be pleased that I took the time to make homemade soup, and that he would actually want to eat it!  I was stunned.  I explained that I made the soup for him because he said that I ne

found this site after another evening of sobbing on the couch. Been married 4 years, have 2 small kids. Always knew DH had a problem with organization, but never realized the extent of his dysfunction.

My wife has ADHD, PMDD and other disorders.  I don't need to reiterate the common problematic issues of relationships here since that's all over the forum.  However, she's heading towards perimenopause and I am... uh... scared.  She has her mood swings under control with medication at the moment and some emotional management tools, therapy.  We have rules to protect me also because she used to be emotionally abusive with me though, and still has impulsivity issues etc.  The other ADHD issues are things she is working on.

DH has business debts and very little retirement money saved.  We passed retirement age but both have our own small dwindling businesses.  We just had a personal visit to our home this morning by someone who he owes rent and utilities for his workshop.  This was a debt where I had specifically asked, "Do you owe them money?"  He said he was paid up.  A lie again.  After the person left, I waited to hear his response.  No words at all.  He was waiting for me to talk while he hung his head in silence.

I'm new here, but I'm very glad I found this site.  My partner of 6 years has been diagnosed with ADHD and OCD.  This was long before we met, and he's under a doctor's care and taking medication.  

We have a HUGE issue like a wall between us since we met -- he is only sexually attracted to women who look a certain way.  To get his "fix", he looks at porn pretty much every day, one woman after another after another, often for an hour or more.  It doesn't matter if I'm home in the next room or I'm out of the house.  He says it makes him "happy."