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Sorry for the update posts - I feel like I have begun to make these here priarily for my own documentation, although hopefully others may find some value within them.

Last night I asked my estranged-withinthe-same-household-ADD-wife for a night (tonight) that we could spend together, working on "us".  She agreed.

I looked forward to it all day, although I admittedly began to feel disappointment as the evening wore on later and later her desire to "go for a walk" and the kid's needs for snacks, entertainment, etc. pushed "our time" further to the back burner.

That's what my relationship with my husband feels like.  We have been bickering about a few significant topics for more than three years now, since he was fired from his last full-time job.  One topic, about which I've pretty much given up hope:  looking for another full-time job.  The other topic:  my desire to have my husband help more around the house, given that I'm working more than he is and also doing more of the housework.  In the more than three years since the firing, my husband's only regular contribution to helping out around the house has been to vacuum ... sometimes.

I am the wife of an ADD husband.  He is a genius in so many ways.  In fact, he took the genius test and came out in the top two percent.  He has a great job and makes lots of money.  He loves me, and tells me every day.  I also love him and tell him that I love him every day.  I really do love him, in spite of his ADD traits.

I'm recently diagnosed ADHD, my 18 yr old is diagnosed ADHD and my bf is ADD since childhood. 

My partner is 26 years old and has ADD. He was diagnosed as a child and put on Ritalin for a very short time but was taken off, as his mother wasn’t keen on him being on it. Flash forward 18 years and he is having such a hard time with the symptoms it in his personal life, work life and our relationship that he has decided to go down the path of seeking medication to improve his concentration. He denied his ADD for such a long time (years and years) so I am really proud of him for acknowledging it and seeking help.

I've been reading these forums for the past year or so and today I come looking for advice on my situation with my boyfriend of two years. We aren't married but we do live together and I'd love opinions from people who know what ADHD can do to a relationship in the long term.

Both my husband and 10 year old son have been diagnosed with ADHD and Asperger's within the last few months.  Both are on medication now and in counseling with a counselor who specializes in ADHD.  Both of them are handling their symptoms better and trying to improve their relationships.

OPPOSITIONAL DEFIANCE SYMPTOMS:  Adults with ODD defend themselves relentlessly when someone says they've done something wrong. They feel misunderstood and disliked, hemmed in and pushed around. Some feel like mavericks or rebels.   WHAT CAUSES ODD?  It's unclear. It could be that a pattern of rebellion sets in when children with ADHD are constantly at odds with adults who are trying to make them behave in ways that their executive function deficit prohibits. By the time kids have had ADHD symptoms for two or three years, 45 to 84 percent of them develop ODD, too.

I am a 51 year old woman with ADHD, just diagnosed a year and a half ago.  I struggle in many ways due to it, the anxiety and defensiveness affecting communication with my new spouse and our kids.  

I was referred to a book that helped both me and my spouse to understand the core to our interpersonal communications, and how it gets distorted.  The book is "Hold Me Tight, Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love", by Sue Johnson.