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I've been reading these forums for the past year or so and today I come looking for advice on my situation with my boyfriend of two years. We aren't married but we do live together and I'd love opinions from people who know what ADHD can do to a relationship in the long term.

Both my husband and 10 year old son have been diagnosed with ADHD and Asperger's within the last few months.  Both are on medication now and in counseling with a counselor who specializes in ADHD.  Both of them are handling their symptoms better and trying to improve their relationships.

OPPOSITIONAL DEFIANCE SYMPTOMS:  Adults with ODD defend themselves relentlessly when someone says they've done something wrong. They feel misunderstood and disliked, hemmed in and pushed around. Some feel like mavericks or rebels.   WHAT CAUSES ODD?  It's unclear. It could be that a pattern of rebellion sets in when children with ADHD are constantly at odds with adults who are trying to make them behave in ways that their executive function deficit prohibits. By the time kids have had ADHD symptoms for two or three years, 45 to 84 percent of them develop ODD, too.

I am a 51 year old woman with ADHD, just diagnosed a year and a half ago.  I struggle in many ways due to it, the anxiety and defensiveness affecting communication with my new spouse and our kids.  

I was referred to a book that helped both me and my spouse to understand the core to our interpersonal communications, and how it gets distorted.  The book is "Hold Me Tight, Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love", by Sue Johnson.

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Hi everyone, I'm new to  this site and was hoping to get some feedback on how to go about my current situation. My partner has ADD, ADHD and anxiety. At the beginning of the relationship everything was perfect. He paid attention to me, the smallest details, he went out of his way to make me smile and to satisfy my needs. As the relationship went on it seemed as if he was slowly losing interest in me.

Just a view month ago I started dating again after finally recovering from a failed marriage ending in divorce about 2 years ago. I met my date back in July and we were attracted to each other immediately both physically as well as spiritually. After a few dates, he mentioned he has to disclose something/tell me a secret as he put it. He said he was diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago after his son was diagnosed (if I recall correctly). I had no idea what that meant for adults ( I have heard of it in kids and what some of the effects are...).

Hi This is my first time here,my girlfriend of 10 years (we are 60)I think she has found a way to lustify her behavior and to stop taking her meds.

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I wasn't sure where to turn for advice, or at least the specific advice I seem to need, and since searching "husband with ADD has illogical arguments" on google seems to bring up weird results, I decided to post here.