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We seem to have gotten to polar opposites of fun/work linear scale.  My married life has been about building, maintaining, planning, working.  DH has been about having fun, being personable, sense of humor, talking his way around things, jokes, his own pleasure experience.  I slid into workathon when I thought that if he saw me  have fun, he would get distracted and think he deserved more fun that he is already having (he has a distorted sense of what is fair) and he would abandon his work and promises and have only fun abandoning more of his share of work.

lets see how long this would last for!

My husband is going crazy!I am not sure what is his real problems but ever since I met him no one liked him,no one trusted him,everyone wants to stay away from him.His own mother came to me when I first met him and told me that I would be sorry in the long haul if I were to be with him but I was sooo much head over heels in love with this man I did not listen to no one but my self.I am lost for words I don't know where to begin.I am so alone and afraid of everything even being on the computer sometimes.I am here blogging and doing my researches and he is very insecure with me on the compute

Hi.  My husband has ADHD & he will sometimes get very angry & yell about minor things.  I guess what makes it all the more frustrating is that he doesn't seem to feel there is anything wrong with his behavior or any need to apologize for it.  If I try to tell him that I don't like the way he is treating me he will go ballistic.  So I have to try to ignore it the best I can.  But sometimes this makes me feel like I'm doing the wrong thing, like I should somehow be setting better boundaries.  Plus, over time it can lead to a build-up of frustration in our relationship.

After visiting this and other forums and sites, and on the verge of leaving my DH at the beginning of last month(not too long, I know..) so many things have changed. I feel like my whole life has been turned upside-down. Turns out most of our issues have been related to lack of communication and lack of sex on my DH's part.

Is this your house?

Hi,

I just recently discovered this forum and like many of you I am relieved to find that there are so many people in a similar situation to mine and that we can support each other.

My wife is a physician and she has diagnosed herself as ADD. After doing some research, I went from being suspicious that ADD was a made-up condition to really believing that medication for it was my only hope for keeping my sanity. By using this forum I hope to share my struggles and coping strategies and hopefully get some feedback.

New user. Save your hellos.

Incredibly angry and upset. Been this way for a LONG time. Doesn't matter what I try and do, I get NO WHERE.

So upset and current situation. Have ZERO patience or tolerance for anything. Very P$$#ed off.

Do we get to blame people here? How about we start with GOD WHO MADE ME LIKE THIS! Why don't we start with Him?

All my life I have been F###CKED UP. From the very beginning. Oh, wonderful child. So intelligent. Can't focus. Can't concentrate. "Classic underachiever." (Always loved that one.)

What do I do to make her feel visible? I went upstairs to plug in my cell phone. I looked at my phone and was distracted by an news article. I was up there for at least 15 minutes.  I didn't ask her what she was doing before I went upstairs, and she was trying to solve a problem with her website. Both kids were running amuck (one kept asking for ice cream even though it was just before dinner, and the other fixed a bowl of cereal without asking, again, before dinner). She was yelling out to me to come help but I did not hear her downstairs.

So, yesterday my wife sends me a text, "Hey, is there any way I could borrow $20 until Friday? (though I had more gasoline than I actually do)"  She said needed it "tomorrow-ish".

I told her I probably could, that I'd see what I could do.  I didn't have cash to spare in the checking account until I get paid next, but I had one credit card with extra room on it...  I could put the gas on that, and send in an extra payment on Friday.  When she got home from work later last night, I let her know that I could cover some gas for her.

I come to this site and write down my frustrated, angry and full of rage feelings and feel purged a bit and heard.  But I am realizing that what my anger is really, is an attempt to save myself from the powerlessness of my situation and the sadness and disappointment and loneliness and some fear that comes with something being out of control and in a downward spiral.  I am disappointed and ashamed of myself for letting myself get into financial ambiguity.