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I have been reading these forums and blogs on this website for a few months now. I have never had the courage to join in. I have been watching from the inside. But today for whatever reason, I joined. And here I am throwing myself out here. I can't do this anymore. Even as I type, it is surreal. Like this really can't be me in my life getting ready to puke it all out to a bunch of strangers. Here it goes...

My wife was reading up on ADHD because the idea had been brought up regarding our son.  She stopped and said, “Wait a minute…this is YOU.” Finding out I had ADHD was a milestone- my entire life fell into place. I was ecstatic! My wife sank into a depression- it confirmed the hopelessness she had felt. The very next day at lunch I went to the mall to get a present for her, maybe a small piece of jewelry or something. I saw a Barnes&Noble and went in- where better to start learning about ADHD than with a new book? I looked at the titles.

My husband has ADHD-inattentive. Finally, finally this diagnosis was made and he began Ritalin LA. He was like a new person. We since lost our insurance and he now is under care through the VA.

The problem is the VA does not generally pay for patented medications. The psych-NP started him on the older version of Ritalin, which has a shorter half life than the Ritalin LA that he was taking. She prescribed two doses a day. He puts off taking it in the morning so that he can take it later in the early afternoon, trying to function effectively during critical hours. 

My Theory is this, and my disclaimer, I have not succeeded in doing what my theory is.  My Theory: You have to have victory over the addiction before you can have victory over ADD or ADHD.  I use the word victory rather than "control" because "control" is an addicts word.  On the other hand, I think Dr. Hollowell is on the right track.  Victory means that you have not "indulged" your addiction in a long time.

I see many references to ADHD, books and such, but what about ADD?

Hi Everyone!

just wanted to let you know I got one of the jobs I interviewed for last week!  Yay! 

Will hear about the other one at the end of the month....

cross your fingers for me, please!!!!

Ellamenno

I very often feel that my ADD husband would be better off without being married to me.  Ten years of struggling with this disease and it never gets better and I only get worse.  I hate the person I've become.  I can clearly remember a time when I would never have imagined thinking or saying the things I say to my husband now out of frustration.  I am not nice to him.  It's so hard for me to put my anger and resentment aside enough to give him praise when he tries.  I can't be grateful for what little effort he puts forward.  All I ever think is that it's not enough, and maybe it never will

My ADHD boyfriend and I dated for a little over a year before I ended things. I actually remember writing on these message boards, declaring it was over. 

I'm already frustrated with the hubby going back to school. He's been at it a week and half and has already missed all four of his classes once and has been late to all. He keeps up with his school work and does well on his assignments and tests. But I'm afraid his instructors are going to throw him out for missing class or being consistently late. Honestly, I think if you can keep up with the work load and make good grades, then not coming to class shouldn't matter. But the school admin doesn't feel the same way apparently.

This is something my husband and I need some help/suggestions about.  Someone mentioned in another thread that my husband seems to do well when things are relatively calm (the way most of us NTs do) and when things take a chaotic turn he tends to spin in place without being able to get his bearings (also in a way that happens to many of us NTs when we are overwhelmed).  It is true that he basically has the same pattern a lot of us have, but the frequency, duration, and amount of outside help needed to resolve it seem very different.