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Going to put this post here even though it is not your typical happy ending. So many posts and comments here filled with such pain and an utter loss of hope where the non spouse has given up in hurt and anger and/or has decided to forge ahead and make his/her way to a better, less painful life by ending the relationship. I'm in the latter category with one thing to add: I adore my husband. I love him so much that I just want to see him happy.

"Thanks for getting so much of the cooking and cleaning done over the last week or so...  I've just been so tired from the extra training getting ready for my new position at work."

Pb.

This is my first post.  I read Melissa's book, and others, and it all rings true for my husband and I.  We have an appointment on Monday to see a counselor.  My husband doesn't agree that our relationship issues stem from ADHD, but I know that they do.  I "worked on myself" for years, I did counseling, thinking maybe I'm depressed, maybe I have postpartum depression, maybe this is anxiety... it got to the point where my insurance company wouldn't support any more therapy for me as a "reason was not clearly defined."  He was so good at making me believe it was all my fault.  The resources I

Hi.  I've posted many times; just an update for those unfamiliar with my situation. I've been married almost 30 years.  My husband was diagnosed with ADHD within the past two or three years.  He also has been treated for depression since he was a teenager and for anxiety.  He has been fired from two jobs and has a very difficult time getting new jobs.

This hole that we've dug for 20 + years sure is hard to climb out of, much less see the light above, but I am a non ADHD spouse who is trying. 

My husband is in a downward spiral and has been for several years after being downsized and losing a couple of jobs in a creative field, plus he is diabetic, overweight and with a food addiction. We have two teenagers, one has ADHD also. 

We started back to counseling 4 months ago after my discovery that he was not job hunting on the Internet, he was involved in a few other activities that he had lied about (porn).

I have been married for 12 yrs and we have 4 young children. I love my husband, but nothing has come easy. We are both headstrong people. He is a recovering alcoholic. He has been sober for 12 yrs. every  week he has 2 days where he is in a bad mood and lashes out at me. It is usually something I have done or said that has upset him...but it takes him so long to get out of his funk. He was diagnosed with ADHD 3 yrs ago. He is on straterrra and doesn't want to take harder meds bec of being an alcoholic. His drug of choice was pot, nothing hardcore.  I don't know how to deal with this.

My ADHD husband has been run over by a car as a pedestrian, hit about 3-4 times as a bicyclist, and someone just hit his car yesterday. While I haven't been present at these events, I have been n the car with him and I've seen the way he drives and makes people angry.

My ADHD hubby's family is on my last nerve. I guess it's because after four years of marriage, we're actually living in the same town as them, so we're back into the honeymoon phase of sorting out family dynamics.

I am fairly new to posting on this site. But, I read a bit for a while before registering in order to post comments myself. However, the more I read on here, and the more I navigate my way around this site and the internet in general, the more isolated and separate I feel in my (I guess very unique) situation. I am an ADHD woman, married to an ADHD man and we have four children, all either diagnosed ADHD or showing all the signs but still too young for diagnosis. We have struggles in our marriage and our parenting and in life in general that are related to our ADHD.

Recently diagnosed, and recognizing the serious impact of ADHD on my marriage and family has been enlightening ... for me. My estranged husband (we are separated, but living in the same house with me sleeping in the RV) has not been educating himself on the disorder, even though I made it extremely easy for him by printing up articles and highlighting text. He has so much anger and resentment built up against me. I consider myself very caring and compassionate. I don't believe that I act out with malice or to be rebellious.