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I'm at a complete loss on what to do w/my husband and marriage.  After 10 years of marriage, 2 beautiful girls, & so many endless unfinished projects, I just don't know how much more I can take.  I need some real, genuine advice, and I need it now.  

*bought a house 8 years ago...lived w/my Mom for 8 1/2 months while bedrooms/living room/dining room walls were ripped apart to the studs/floors ripped out/replaced. Mom hired contractor to finish drywall for us so we could move in.  The trim around entire inside of home is still in the box in the garage from 7+ years ago.

Yes, it's true, my 11 year long stretch of trying to determine and fix my husband's personality disorder has finally come to an end with a conclusion that I'm satisfied with stating is exactly the cause with no further doubt in my mind. 
I must however admit that the answer does not give me any comfort or hope that my marriage will get better, in fact it assures me that unless I do some soul searching of my own it will without doubt only get worse. 

My 8-year-old daughter talking to me  (non-ADHD spouse). "Mom, why are those neighbors so rich? Their mom doesn't work. 

I respond, "their dad has a job. " 

You're having a conversation with someone who has ADD and supposedly loves you.  You're telling them you're going through a very hard time in your life.  They say a few words, but sound bored, detached and show no emotion or interest.  A few minutes later they ask how someone is doing they barely know.  When they ask about this person they sound very interested and concerned, even sweet.  What is up with that? 

I wonder to myself, How does a good marriage keep it together and why doesn't mine feel good to me? I found the following on the internet.

I love my partner. I am madly in love with my partner. But the untreated ADD that she has is toxic. She recognises that her own worklife is affected, and admits that out of everyone in her life I am most hurt by it - but then, she'll take the meds to help her at uni, but not in general to help us out.

As I wrote in others post here, my marriage is improving and everything is going great. The only thing that keep me a kind of frustrated, although I have learned how to deal with it through the years, is that he lost his sex drive since we got married 6 years ago. We tried medications, therapy, doctors, but nothing helped him. I almost did everything to wake up his fire but nothing looks to help. He feels bad about this too, so, he avoid to talk about it. He's charming and shows me his love in many  other ways. We love each other and I have hope that one day he can get back his sex drive.

Hello everyone,

I'd like any advice anyone might have about ANYTHING that will help me.

I have to switch primary care doctors because my PCP has left for a different state.  Long story short:  I'm running out of pills and can't see my new doctor til Friday.

My ADHD husband and I recently agreed to use Melissa Orlov's card index system she presents in her book for dealing with chores. We have weekly meetings to discuss what needs to be done, then write out his chores on cards and place them by order of priority in the front of the box. All he has to do is open the box and take out the front card. 

Are your DH's doing anything about their ADD? Meds, therapy, reading about ADD or exercising? I've been there with some of the behavior's you are describing. I was more of the Shut-Down type than a Get Angry Mean type before diagnosis. The classic event around here was due to my oblivious powers of observation, so if there was something I "Should" have been noticing was bothering my DW or something that she had told me at some point she would like to get done, she would not nag me about it and pretty much just wait for me do notice the issue or start the project she asked me to do.