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I love my partner. I am madly in love with my partner. But the untreated ADD that she has is toxic. She recognises that her own worklife is affected, and admits that out of everyone in her life I am most hurt by it - but then, she'll take the meds to help her at uni, but not in general to help us out.

As I wrote in others post here, my marriage is improving and everything is going great. The only thing that keep me a kind of frustrated, although I have learned how to deal with it through the years, is that he lost his sex drive since we got married 6 years ago. We tried medications, therapy, doctors, but nothing helped him. I almost did everything to wake up his fire but nothing looks to help. He feels bad about this too, so, he avoid to talk about it. He's charming and shows me his love in many  other ways. We love each other and I have hope that one day he can get back his sex drive.

Hello everyone,

I'd like any advice anyone might have about ANYTHING that will help me.

I have to switch primary care doctors because my PCP has left for a different state.  Long story short:  I'm running out of pills and can't see my new doctor til Friday.

My ADHD husband and I recently agreed to use Melissa Orlov's card index system she presents in her book for dealing with chores. We have weekly meetings to discuss what needs to be done, then write out his chores on cards and place them by order of priority in the front of the box. All he has to do is open the box and take out the front card. 

Are your DH's doing anything about their ADD? Meds, therapy, reading about ADD or exercising? I've been there with some of the behavior's you are describing. I was more of the Shut-Down type than a Get Angry Mean type before diagnosis. The classic event around here was due to my oblivious powers of observation, so if there was something I "Should" have been noticing was bothering my DW or something that she had told me at some point she would like to get done, she would not nag me about it and pretty much just wait for me do notice the issue or start the project she asked me to do.

I have been married for 5 years and my husband is undiagnosed. I would really like to hear from some of you who have seen improvement or progress with your spouses ... I love my husband dearly and am committed to him forever. But I have been realizing lately that I no longer believe him when he says things like, "I am going to get fit." or "I am going to start practicing the guitar." etc etc. I feel like his goals are wonderful and he has great ideas but can't seem to make them stick longer than a week or so. I don't like the fact that I don't believe him anymore ... 

I'm sure I'm not the only one on this forum who feels ignored and invisible.  I'm so sick of pulling the weight in this marriage.  My husband would be just fine if we never had a serious talk about anything.  It seems to also be just fine with him to sit for hours on end not uttering a word to each other.  He stays in his own world with his laptop and the remote control.  Heaven forbid that I get aggravated with this scenario or the fact that he pays me little to no attention.  He is 50 years old and his ADD seems to be getting worse the older he gets.  Of course, he won't take medication f

Just the worst day, ever. I am so despondent and tired and alone that I think I may be becoming clinically depressed. If anyone out there has some words for me, I would appreciate it so much.

I'm new here! Glad to find this group! I'm a non ADHD spouse. Six years of marriage. All was great before the wedding. I started to think that something was wrong with him after our sexless honey moon. He was charming and loving but no sex desire. My first year of marriage  was difficult, (before marriage everything was good). I felt like I was more like his mom like his wife. We had almost the same struggles like you all here.  I was so frustrated and depressed.  I wanted to go for counseling, but he wasn't agree. Until one day that he open his heart and  told me that was not my fault.

DH is thinking we need a vacation to help us with our disagreements in the relationship,so we are headed to a 7 day vacation in the most romantic place in the Caribbean, and we are on our way this coming Wednesday,hopefully this might help us and hold some memories for us to hold on to.The mood swings and some of the anger disappears when he is next to the sea or ocean....so I know for sure we would have a wonderful time,but still I have to be careful,anytime he could change...

Keep me in your prayers and wish me good luck...

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