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I am so happy to have discovered this website.  I am married to my husband one year, and together for 7 years.  Throughout our relationship we have had various blow out fights.  In the beginning he romanced me like  no other man has before, he was charming, so romantic and attentive.  Then one day, everything just stopped and the focus wasn't on me anymore.  I felt abandoned, neglected and forgotten about.  This in turn, lead to many conflicts and myself acting out in a way that was alarming to myself.

I´ve been hanging here for a while, in order to better understand my ex BF (with adhd) and what happened in our relation. Still learning A LOT  from all you posters, and Melissa, very grateful.
But my main impression is what a fantastic person you seem to be YYZ, I guess half of the women on this forum are in love with you, and I am no exception ;-) You are such an example for any man or woman, adhd or not. Funny, considerate, humble, intelligent, loving (your wife) and mature. I have learned so much about ADD from your posts.

I don't mean to sound mean or harsh but the thought just occurred to me as to if the(non-ADHD spouse is compatible with the ADHD spouse) ??? is that possible??

I want to know peoples best experiences with reversing a conversation that went wrong. Too many times I've walked away from an argument or conflict with no satisfaction, resolution or compromise. Were bolth stubborn and correct on all subjects so I wanted to hear anyone's opinions or comments on what they did or do to communicate. By the way counting to ten dose not always work. I love my husband with all my heart so I want help making it a goal to end all conversations with a hug and a kiss. If its not too much a massage too.

Idk if this is the right forum to post in but I didn't see one for what I need advice on. A quick back story: I have kidney stones and recently was hospitalized for 4 that were in my kidney and one that had to be removed (the stone not the kidney). I had a stent put in and was prescribed hydrocodone for the pain. I did not take but maybe two over a week period. I'm very cautious about them because I've heard they're addictive. I over heard my husband talking to his friend saying he "took one on Thursday but not since and was hurtin". I found this peculiar and instinctively checked my scripts.

I have become obsessed with the incongruity in life with DH.  Lies, half truths, broken promises, manipulations.  I cannot go on like this. I am embarrassed to myself that I have put up with so much.  I don't know this person I have become. When I was young, I had a secure life with my family.  I am not secure enough to be happy. I am waiting for the next thing that "does not add up" - deception and confusion. 

That's it!!!! over finish!!!!! he took me for granted,ADHD OR NONE,he ruined me,I have been doing everything possible to save my marriage,I put up with his nonsense and he just don't get it!!! he pushed me away this time for good!!! the porn the watching of the women the verbal abuse the time he ruined my birthday,EVERYTHING,I have read books,blogged here,search and search for answers when all he had to do was work on him!!!!!! he never did and still don't want to change!!

Married not even a year but we've been together over four years and I'm fed up with the disrespect and dismissive behavior! He will do things like self medicate and when I attempt to have a conversation with him he reverts to childish and disrespectful behavior. He was anxious waiting for his adhd to be prescribed so he took a friends pill. He said he was worried about us fighting so much and that I'd leave him before he got the pills. I was unhappy about it but was understanding (this isn't the first time) so I attempted to talk to him.

I've been dating my boyfriend for almost one year, and he was diagnosed with ADHD about four years ago. He's been on medication ever since, which seems to really help him focus at his job. His profession is extremely stressful; he's a therapist for adolescents from broken homes and many of them have committed serious crimes. The stuff he hears every day is super, super intense. It's been about one year since my BF got this job, and he's starting to crack under all of the pressure.

I have been married for 15 years.  We have 4 beautiful children but our marriage is really on the rocks.  While we live under the same roof, we may as well live in separate states.  I am an undiagnosed ADHD male spouse.  My marriage has been struggling for sometime now and I really did not understand why.  I am an educated successful professional, but can not fix the problems in my own home.  I can not tell you how frustrating it is to be a problem solver and can not seem to solve my own problems.  After reading the post on this forum particularly from the non-adhd female spouses, I get it.