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Finding this site has helped open my eyes to many things.  I feel as if I can understand my husband better and that I am not alone in my feelings of being lost.  My husband is yet to be officially diagnosed though we both know that he suffers with ADHD.  I have known this since we started dating 15 years ago.  I was very good at dealing with it, or ignoring the issues possibly, until our son came along 4 years ago.  Since having to divide my time between him and our son, my frustration has grown by leaps and bounds.  In the last 2 years we have both hurt each other by turning to other peopl

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I called him even though we are not together, and because I care for him, and still do love him, but have loads of doubt of making up back with him, I tried to explain to him he needs to get treated for his ADHD,he won't listen!,he won't go to a therapist or take medications to help him function.I noticed alot of symptoms even over the phone that I would like to point out.

1)he never listens

2)his voice gets louder and louder like he thinks i am deaf.

3)he is always right never wrong.

4)he gets defensive.

Why do we do horrible things, then feel sorry after?Putting aside ADHD and the long shot of it, aren't we people with brain's?ADHD may have some symptoms to go with the long term distractions' in life but there is the "THINK BEFORE" we do things especially if it will bring heart break.I am no expert but I have a brain and I try not to do things to then feel sorry after.Today my spouse is no longer a part of me since he do things then feel sorry after..He cheated then felt sorry,he cursed me then felt sorry,he accused me wrongfully then felt sorry after,he did everything to then feel sorry a

I am tired of my spouse's accusations and his dreadful remarks.I am COMPLETELY INNOCENT when it comes to infidelity,he does not trust me when we were together.To date we are not presently together, and he came by my house this afternoon thinking I would run in to his arms and forgive him.How can I forgive him when he never even was apologetic for his cruelty and hard disgusting remarks and reap roaches.It's like he is too proud to even be nice.He killed my true feelings for him, and every one around me knows how much I loved him like there was no tomorrow.He came by me today with nothing to

Today I felt as though I was In a different planet,I got up and went to the grocery, and did all my shopping,came home and cooked my family,kids a great meal.I feel relieved from prison,my freedom to live came back,my ADHD husband is no longer with me to tarp me within his means and cage me like a bird.I am happy,happy to be alone again and single enjoying life in a stress free environment.My 1 year 2 months of being with a severe ADHD spouse has ended,THANK GOD.I believe that any one that is in a suffering relationship like the one I was in will be set free one day,the choice belongs to th

Hopefully, I'm not repeating any old information here, I haven't dropped by in a while but after learning about verbal abuse without any mention of ADD, I felt a need to share. My ADD spouse told me more times than I can count that I was just "too sensitive" but apparently he's verbally abusive and he doesn't even realize it! If I pointed it out I'd be a "trouble maker" too! Really? If he's been diagnosed with ADD, we can't point out the verbal abuse?

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I ended things today with my husband and made up my mind to no longer continue the relationship.One of the many forums I wrote would explain how bad I was suffering,and still is.The forum subject is( I TOOK OFF MY WEEDING RING TODAY,IT'S OVER,HE USED ME FOR HIS OWN CONVENIENCE),this is the follow up of it .Every one who reads my forums must think that I have alot of courage to stay with such a hypocrite man as him.I suffered constant abuse, and the days he won't abuse me he would do things to piss me off.I have ADHD too and I only realized it from reading and finding exact symptoms they car

I took my weeding ring off today,he is very hard and cruel to me he does not understand my hurts and pain in this marriage.We went out last night and we had a good time, but the long over due of us separating has finally come  to an end.He is living in his own apartment now since he got his job and it pays him so well he can now afford his own apartment, and I am happy for him.But his high demands from me is a little to much for me since, I have so much going on for me at home, with my kids and my work.I work from home and make my living from home so I can't live with him and that Is creati

I love him,I love him too much, but he won't stop accusing me.He won't stop nagging on me ,checking up on me, how is it he can't see how much I'm trying with him,I joined this ADHD marriage site to help me cope through our marriage and to try and save it..I thought I was alone out there with a terrible husband with such selfish needs and self centered ways,and when I joined the forums I somehow manage to stay with him,the ADHD marriage forums helped me a lot and I read about it on line as well,but things are getting tough and I can't deal with his angry tantrums that he throws at me and acc