Trying to make a meaningful change
So I am the ADHD spouse. I'm trying so hard to make a lasting change in this relationship. My wife has mentioned about 14 different categories where change needs to happen. I am trying to focus my efforts in as many different areas I can. However, I have realized I can't change 14 things at once. I am trying to change one or maybe two things at a time. Mainly my impulse control, emotional volatility. My spouse does not see a change. I've asked her if she notices a change, most of the time its "I don't know". This makes it very difficult to measure how things are. This has me lost.