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Dear Melissa, so much of what I read on this forum just looks like straight forward old fashioned marital abuse. The money issues, the anger, the violence, the witholding of affection, attention, sex, the abuse in fact. I have read a lot since I first came across this potential explanation for husband's awful behaviour - and the other explanation I have been given for the increasing difficulty of dealing with him is a narcissistic personality disorder (incurable) - they seem to share a lot of themes the two conditions, and yet one can be helped.

I parted from my husband of many years over a year ago because it became intolerable to live together due to his constant lapses of judgment, big and little one of which resulted in him seriously injuring himself. He was completely inconsistent when it came to any kind of responsibility, but what I could rely on was daily shocks - one very regular one being parking tickets which would arrive regularly in the post (he would not tell me when he had got them). Which I had to pay as he did not work in fact refused to earn a living.

I was told I could not have AdHD because my iq test was 82 I am a 62 year old female I had higher sorces on short term memory but I do not remember what catagory I had the 82 on. Is this likely?  

I drink to cope with my ADHD spouse.  If I were stronger, I would quit.  I am an alcoholic, though extremely high-functioning.  But the stress is too much for me.  I have a new job as a tenure track professor.  It is like being a first year teacher plus some extra stress.  I must work a lot and he takes care of the children and does not make me feel bad about working.  But right now I have 8 load of laundry to do.  The dishes have not been done in 2 weeks (parts are done but not all).  My daughters' carpets are a disgusting mess.  He does not do one educational thing for them all day long. 

Sooooo all the tests came back fine.  No cancer (or so they think), but they also cant find out what is screwing with his immune system and making him so sick all the time.  Two separate ear infections, bronchitis and a sinus infection all in the last month and a half?  Something has to be going on, in the six years we have been together he has been sick two times total before this!  I just about begged them to redo the blood sugar test (diabetes runs heavily in his family) and to test his vitamin/mineral levels in his blood and got told nope it cant be any of that.  REALLY?????

Hi, I am new to this forum but so glad I found it.  I am 45 my husband is 49 and we have two teenage children.  Our son age 15 has severe autism and was diagnosed at age 3 and with epilepsy age 11.  Our daughter is 17 and planning on university next year, she also has issues (not entirely sure if she has ADHD).

Hi!  I am a newcomer to this forum and site (and very thankful that I found it via the book!).  I am a non-ADHD spouse, with a husband and two kids who have ADHD.  The kids (one boy, one girl) were diagnosed about 5 years ago, and are doing very well on meds (Concerta) and lots of support and modifications at school.  My husband has never been formally diagnosed, although we both realize that he has ADHD based on his symptoms and the symptoms we see in our kids.  He recognizes himself as a "classic case."  He recently started taking meds as we are in the middle of the downward spiral talked

Hello. This is my first time posting. My husband of almost 5 years has (not yet formally diagnosed) adhd. He has just started seeing a psychologist for testing and hopefully medication. I am really struggling knowing potential relief for myself of his behaviors is hopefully around the corner, however I also understand it will not be immediate, and not without lots of work on both of our parts. I guess I need guidance and support related to the fact that I am at the end of my rope and hardly want to be in the same room with him anymore. His nervous energy, pacing, tics, etc.

As I've posted before, my husband lost his job and therefore, his insurance. I finally set him up to go to a county-run treatment center, which won't prescribe for ADD, because he was out of his anti-depressants. He's sleeping 12 hours a day, not looking for a new job, not doing anything in the house, etc. He had a bottle of ADD meds, but lost them!

I haven't read or posted here in a long time, but this thought came to me today.  Your children's view of marriage is based on what they see from their mother and father.  And I'm scared to death that my kids are not seeing a very healthy relationship.  They are still young-5, 3, and 1yo.  I'm not wanting a divorce, there's just no way I can do that to my kids.  But my ADD husband and I just can't be showing them how a good, healthy marriage should be.  He is constantly letting me down, ruining my plans, not being on my team when we discipline the kids.  And the fact that I feel completely