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Ok so my 10 year wedding anniversary is coming up and we are about 4 years post diagnosis.  Things are going REALLY well, and this month I didn't even get my "I am doing too much of the heavy lifting at home" overwhelm at PMS time that I commonly do.  It is pretty much our only ADD-fight danger period now, but that is improving partly because I recognize now what is causing it and am making a consistent effort to focus on all the things he DOES WELL (which is a lot) and partly because he is stepping up and helping out where I need him to pretty consistently.  So we are in a good place, and

After being married for 24 years, my husband was just diagnosed with ADHD.  While I am so happy and relieved to know that all of the craziness of the past 24 years has a reason and a name.  But, I am honestly very confused.  I have to do most of the research, etc.  And I am very, very afraid of where to turn next.    As of now I am desperately trying to find a Psychiatrist in my area and also, perhaps to, start a support group.

I also do not have a strong support system at all as we both have very, very small families.

I live in Pennsylvania in the Lehigh Valley Area.

I think that my ADHD spouse verbally abuses me at least once a week. I know that people with ADHD have a really hard time with managing anger, and my husband has the trifecta: speech problems (hard to communicate, causes frustration), inattention (ADHD), and probably a mild form of autism (very sensitive to the environment and even the smallest stressors). On top of all this, he's lacking in the empathy department, which makes it very easy to objectify others and take out his anger and frustration on me.

End of week two, and I did something I couldn't imagine doing even a week ago.  I broached the subject of ADD with my husband.  I didn't really plan it, but suddenly the moment was upon me and I jumped in.  We were in the car, him driving, and I know, because he has told me, that that is the easiest place for him to talk about "serious" things.  I think by serious he means important.  I made a note of the time, so I wouldn't stress him out by going on "too long".  I began by asking him some questions, which just sort of came to me from my reading about ADD, and my years of observation about

Just got my husband diagnosed with ADHD a few months ago.  After several dosage changes on his medicine, I thought things were so great.  I thought we could finally have a "normal" relationship, but I was wrong.  Now he will threaten me that he won't take his pills if I do this or that.  He takes his pills at odd times when he is supposed to take them the same time each day.  This causes him to stay up all night doing whatever he is hyperfocused on at the time.  We have 2 teens and 2 toddler twins and of course this is all affecting them.  On top of it all, just found out I am pregnant - no

The hubby and I are still going camping...just happy he still wants to go.  Catch ya all on Tuesday when we get back, keep your fingers crossed.  Hopefully we will come back in a better place than we are leaving.  Gotta think positive right?! :)

My DH (ADHD) and I (non-ADHD) are at this awkward/delicate place in our relationship. We're not fighting and I'm not angry but we're just going through the motions of our day-to-day lives. We're walking on eggshells around each other. I feel like we both want to connect but are afraid to initiate. Why we are afraid is understandable - years of missteps and being on the roller coaster for a years. But we're still together and there are still feelings there.

It's been a long time since I've been here, just wanted to share and give hope to those who can find it in what I write. I'm writing under my DH's account, can't get into mine. Long story, but he registered and will be sharing soon. When I was here last I was at the end of my rope and had given DH an ultimatum. Two years to show some progress and address his ADHD or I go. Things got progressively worse on my end. I lost all interest in everything,no makeup, no manicures, no hobbies.

Ive been coming here for a long time and it has been incredible to not feel alone like I was before. It was very difficult especially last year, when he hit 50, found out he had adhd late the year before, and started drinking and hanging out with a group of men with similar issues.

My husband has ADD and one of the things he struggles with is keeping up with appointments that are on his Outlook calendar.  I would love to help him with this, but I do not have Outlook.  I use Google Calendar instead.  Does anyone know if there is a way for his Outlook calendar to automatically notify me by email each time a new appointment is scheduled?  I know one way would be for him to invite me to any appointment he has, but we are looking for a solution that will be automatic, not one that will create more work for him.  Thanks for any suggestions you may be able to offer me.