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Just a lil update.  The dh and I are still making progress, the weekend went well with minimal problems.  We took his daughter back to her mom's and saw family while we were down there, I went and hung out with my mom and he hung out with his brother and mom.  He even wore his wedding ring for the entire weekend....amazing for him seeing he used to complain it bothered him.  He was pretty crabby on the way home (3 hours one way in the vehicle), but when I mentioned it he DIDN'T blow up!!  He thought about it for a minute, told me "yeah I guess I am a little short tempered today" and then to

I need some help from the non-ADHD partners to understand my husband.  He is so angry and bitter.  We have been together for 18 years, and I started meds 10 years ago.  I only started therapy 6 months ago when I realized I needed help for my anxiety related to his pronouncement that he didn't love me anymore and wanted to divorce when the kids were older.  In spite of the changes I've made, he continues to vacillate on whether I've actually made any progress (You never change!/Why didn't you make these changes 10 years ago?  I don't love you anymore!/I love you.  If I didn't, why would I st

Anyone out there have any pearls of wisdom for the burned-out/angry/hopeless spouse of a physician with ADD & OCD who just can't seem to complete the required paperwork and is constantly running behind schedule during the day, being "dinged" by the EMR system for not going through emails/EMR completions in a timely manner, and who is probably about to be fired for the 4th time? Excellent physician, decades of practice, never sued, loved by patients (except the ones in the waiting room waiting an hour or two), admin people despise b/c of tardiness and piles of incomplete charts. HELP!!!

My wife has been diagnosed wi OCD & ADHD. She reacts to any situation that in stressful for her. This is fine within our relationship since she is working on this in counseling and I support her. Unfortunitally she has found a way to blame me for the situation that created the stress ... Even if the situation is not related to me. I think I am "safe" in her eyes so it's easy to default her angerr onto me. She is having a moment right now ... Thank to recent support on his forum ... I am looking at her stress as real to her instead of looking at it in the context of ADHD.

from everything. He left the business all together two months ago. And has been doing nothing but mope around and say he is going to figure out what he is going to do. Luckily I went back to work full time a few years ago. So we have my income but I dont make enough to cover all the bills plus the mortgage. I've borrowed from my 401k to pay off his business debt that we carried over. Plus 1/2 of the credit card debt. Which we have because he has no impulse control when it comes to money. He had bought a truck using one of our credit cards to pay for it.

Until recently I thought I had developed the proper skills to cope with my ADHD.  The reality is that I have not.

I am now living in my own apartment, away from my wife, and consuming any and all information I can find on ADHD, and marriage.  I picked up the book last night (an adventure in and of itself, 4 book stores later).  I have read it cover to cover once, and am on my second pass.  During this time I find that I am asking myself the same question over and over: "What right do I have to subject my non-ADHD wife to the life I have been?"  

My wife of 2 years has been diagnosed with OCD and ADHD. She is going to cognitive behavioral therapy which has helped although when she reacts to stressful situations, and finds away to make me apart of the problem. Reason goes out the window. In counseling we agreed that when I recognize that she has been "triggered" that I should say a word that we agree on and I leave for 1 hour. During this time she is supposed to fill out work sheets to help discover the root of her stress ... Hence excluding me as the problem. She will not do the work sheets.

Hey very helpful people,

 

I'm writing out of utter shame and despair. I, like us all, have a long story so I'll try my best to keep it brief. It's also hastily written.

I'm 30ish, living with ADHD(on Meds, Adderall), Learning Disability, panic disorder and PTSD from childhood sexual abuse.

Hello,

I am looking for help understanding how I can to some things better.  Recently, I have  had issues with inattentiveness, not listening, making up stories, etc.

This has been hurting the relationship between me and my wife to be.  It's got to a point where she does not believe I think she is special, she does not think I can change, and I don't consider her feelings.  

A lot of this not the day to day stuff but more of when we are not together. It's not being able to live in the "now" thinking in the moment.