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I am new here and I just need a place to let go for a moment.  I need to know how much can you take of this.  My husband is well meaning in many respects.  He is a great father, but I am having difficulty dealing with the extraordinary amount of responsibility it takes to be married with someone who has ADHD.  We don't really name it because he doesn't believe that things should be named less it has power over you.  He is unmedicated because he doens't want to be dependant on any drug for the rest of his life.

My husband has ADD and  sometimes I just wish I had a muzzle!!! He talks so much and not only talks too much but he overshares and talks to people about things that I feel should be kept to himself. Opinions,stories and things that should remain in his head or conversations that we've had, husbadn wife things that I want to just die and crawl into a hole and hide sometimes. He is a love him or hate him personality. People either think he's too much and dislike him, they think he's fake and over doing it on purpose for attention or they think he's the friendliest and most nice guy around.

A friend recommended this site to me.  I've read some of the things posted and all I can say is, "Wow!  I thought I was the only one!"  It's good to know I'm not alone.  That others with a spouse with ADHD are having difficulties too.

Hello,

Last week I wrote a post about my marriage and when I reread that post I know that it was written from a place of pain, sorrow and isolation. Now that I'm in a place that is more self-reflecting, I can honestly say that the one common denominator in all that has happened during the last 4 years of my marriage was me (my husband too, but self- reflection isn't about him!). This marriage has been extremely difficult for me.

Melissa's email post about the lack of intimate relationships got me wondering a bit.   (something like half of us lack even a single friendship that we can count on).

I know my untreated ADHD wife is human.  I've seen her breathe, and bleed....  But If I am an evolved, introspective man with feelings and needs for intimacy (not just sex.  Hey how 'bout sliding over on the couch or in bed once in awhile?  Y'know, a touch, a whisper, an embrace?  Maybe to show that you too need your man) then isn't an ADHD spouse seemingly susceptible to the same human needs?

Yay!

oh... wait... he's asleep....

but.... he STARTED reading the book!

Yay!

Hello,

I am new to this forum. I am married to a wonderful woman with ADHD. Three months ago a support group for partners of people with ADHD was started in the Boston area. I have attended the first three sessions of this meetup group and have found it very validating to talk face-to-face with people who can relate to me. The few of us who are regulars are catching a vision to make this group not only a place for partner support, but also a place for us to learn together how to be better partners and foster healthier relationships.

I need help.

I believe that my partner has undiagnosed ADD; the classic symptoms are there, but there is something more hurtful going on.

While I'm dealing with classic ADD symptoms, my partner has developed defense mechanisms that protect against the natural failures associated with ADD...

Most prevalent defense mechanisms are the willingness to lay blame elsewhere when things go wrong...and to turn the tables on me when I bring up an issue that involves ADD.

I'm also dealing with denial in my partner.