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We all have ADHD, mine most severe. I have learned to cope with my symptoms with strategies I've read about and ones I have developed on my own (out of necessity). I do not want to live in chaos any longer. I do not want to wake up every morning to chaos and yelling. I am tired of doing all the housework and cleaning up after 8, yes 8 dogs that my wife impulsively decided to "foster". I'm going nuts trying to get my family to buy into a schedule for cleaning (our house is w wreck, so much that the kids do not want to bring anyone over.

Hi everyone,

I have been reading this site for a while now and am amazed at how much I see not only my girlfriend but myself in these posts. 

I have posted previously.  My marriage appears to be past the point of return; my wife has just canceled our last marriage counseling session.  I am very sad but resigned.  I am going to attempt follow Melissa's path, as she presented in her book, by working on my best self rather than pining over my failing relationship.  My wife and I have many issues to work out: financial and legal (bankruptcy and house) and children (2 boys, 7 and 5).  We have discussed separation and dissolution.  Any advice for what to do next or how to start?  

Rob H

I have not started a post in a long time, so I think today is as good as any.

A little over two years after my diagnosis I feel like things in my house are better than they have been in a long time. I always take my meds, read and respond to many posts here (This site and it's great people have really made a difference) and continue to work on my ADD behavior. Communication between my DW is much improved and the anger and frustration seems to be fading fast.

I feel like my heart is breaking...

I'd like to ask: What the rest of you do when your adhd spouses are having extreme mood swings? and maybe those with adhd could tell me what they are feeling or thinking, etc. I would greatly appreciate ANY personal dealings with this. My adhd husband is on Concerta, but he can have some really "down" days, in which it seems that NOTHING can cheer him up, or change his mood, and I have always been at a loss as to what to do, or how to respond. I used to be really concerned and care very much about "what was bothering him", but he could never really tell me anything specific.

Hi group, Maybe someone can give me insight into my adhd husband's type of adhd, because it is still confusing to me, and at times I am just STUMPED. He was never lazy, in fact he was always "doing something" (I guess hyperactivity?)He didn't do things in ways that most kids would do, but I guess some of his actions could have seemed as "lazy". He WAS messy, and never put anything back, and his father was always angry at him for something.

How can indifference, lack of emotion, and pretty much ignoring someone (until bedtime) be at all construed as love? Does the ADHD mind really believe this? Or does this describe a narcissistic person? What is the difference between narcissism and ADHD?

I've seen quite a few posts here regarding ADHD+non-ADHD couples and their sex lives but one part of the subject that I didn't see touched upon (no pun intended) is how to deal with the ADHD partner's desire for instant gratification when the non-ADHD partner enjoys more of a build-up and foreplay.  In my case, I'm the one who is the instant gratification person and he couldn't be more opposite, especially where sex is concerned but really in so many ways that is how we are.  He is frustrated because of my lack of sensuality.  He says I seem to have very little creativity in the bedroom i

Has anyone else had this problem:  Suddenly I am having severe slip-ups even though I am taking Adderall regularly, 2ce a day.  2 days ago lost my keys and metrocard.  Yesterday was a logistical nightmare, all 'ADD moments' leading to me being 45 minutes late meeting someone, and forgetting to bring essetial items...  then I ruined dinner.  this morning I was going to fold the laundry I did before going to bed, only to realize i never put it in the dryer and it was still in the washing machine getting mildewy....  Burned breakfast this morning because i couldn't handle making bacon AND pa