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Hello, I'm new here and first off I have to say I love it! I already feel the support I have been needing.

This site has been a huge help for me so I have been trying to find something similar in Australia.

I have found support groups for those with ADD, parents and carers but nothing for spouses.

Is there anyone else here from Australia that can help?

My husband and I have been married for 10 short months. We are both in our early 30s. We had a whirlwind relationship and he decided after less than a year of dating that he had to marry me immediately, Prior to our marriage, I had frustrations with his behaviors and always wrote them off that he was "eccentric" and his frequent disconnections would be cleared up once we were married and living together. Only, in the last month have I realized that my husband has adult ADHD.

Let me apologize in advance if this is long, I'm really in need of some help.  My wife and I have been married for just over 16 years and have two kids:  14 year old son and 12 year old daughter.  We separated in October of 2010 and we knew there was no way our marriage was going to work, so we decided to call it quits.  My wife has been diagnosed with ADHD and has previously taken medication for it as well as received counseling.  The combination of the two helped tremendously and she was a completely different person.

Recently in a "moment of clarity" my husband of 6 years (who was diagnosed with ADHD about 3 years ago) has decided that our marriage is too difficult and that despite the fact that we got along before- we just don't "click". We've known each other since childhood, so this is difficult to accept.

My husband has the worst case of lose-itis I've ever run into. I'd like to know if any of you have found ways to treat this in yourselves, you spouses or your children.

By now most of you know that my husband is reading Melissa's book and when he's done I plan to talk to him about finding a coach to help me, and possibly us as a couple.  So that I can be ready for that conversation when he finishes the book, I have been trying to find resources in the area where we live and contact some potential coaches to get some information.  

Well, lately I have been very active on this site and many people have commented about how much my posts have helped and enlightened them.  However...you can probably deduce from the sheer quantity of my posts in the past few days how many hours I have spent on this stupid computer.  That naturally means I have not been doing other things...IMPORTANT things!  This is where I turn my "Good" strength (written communication skills, compassion for others) into a "Bad" or a weakness/failure, because I will hyper-focus on such written communication and ignore my more pressing responsibilities.

This is my second marriage and my husband's (who has ADD) 4th. When I fell in love with and married my husband he was taking Welbutrin. After we were married (3 years ago)  he took himself off Welbutrin and stopped taking Adderal. He said he's fine and doesn't need it..... And that his psychiatrist agrees (The 10 minute phone call once a month psychiatrist). I can go about a month being loving, supportive, patient, tip toeing around his defensiveness and sensitivity and being invisible before I get angry..... I get really, really angry and try to hurt him verbally.