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We are currently waiting for my husbands referral to go through for the local area psychiatrist that does adult ADHD diagnostic testing.

My DSS was recently diagnosed and during the process my spouse began realizing that he heavily related to what we came to know as symptoms during the process.

My husband has been being treated for 'depression' by our family doctor without significant results for probably two years.

I have ADHD and have been diagnosed for many years. Take medicine to even out the thinking and have seen many therapists over the years. Over the years I have worked very hard on changing many of the ADHD issues, such as communications, anger levels, job hoping, financial ruin, and task completion. Have I succeeded at all? NO, not at all. AM I still working on them? Yes. Always trying to understand the effects my ADHD has caused in my marriage. I know ADHD does cause issues beyond the normal man-woman issues. I know I am the cause of a lot of our issues, but not all of them.

I've been reading the forums for the past couple of weeks and often I'll get halfway through a response to someone who is going through so many of the same things and I'll stop and have to erase it because I'm not offering advice, I'm venting. I have the intention of offering advice but lately it all turns sour.

 I guess I don't understand why we "non's" of ADHD'ers are told we are trying to "fix" our spouses ADHD. Most of the time we are trying to help things run smoother instead of having so much CHAOS all the time. The stress of trying to have as "normal" a life as possible, but always finding ourselves in extremely difficult situations, is a frustrating thing. Those of us who have had multiple years of undiagnosed adhd have lived a life of such confusion, that it's hard to understand the differences between "fixing" and "being able to get things accomplished with the least amount of stress".

I am married to a spouse with adhd and my spouse will not get help.  My spouse blames me for everything.  When I try to talk to my spouse about my feelings, concerns, fustrations, etc he always puts the blame on me, says I like to argue, says I enjoy fighting, ends the conversation, etc.  In the past ten years of our marriage he has also called me names, said I had bi-polar, ocd, personality disorder whenever I would try to talk to him about things that were bothering me in the marriage he would get very defensive and angry and if I got upset or pushed my point any more towards him that i

I'm new to this forum - this is my first post. I do not have ADHD, but my husband was diagnosed with ADD around the age of 12. We were married last summer. We have been friends and have known each other since high school (dated for the past few years, more recently). I've known about his ADD diagnosis all along, but knew very little about how it affects adults, and I had no idea it was affecting our relationship until very recently.

Hello to all in the forums, thank you so much for being active in them. I have learned so very much from you all already just by reading your experiences!

It was not until my husband sought therapy for what we thought was depression, that he was officially diagnosed at 38 with ADHD.  He was unhappy in the marriage due to lack of intimacy and he filed for divorce. It has almost been a year and I have delayed the court proceedings as long as I possibly can.  But I am running out of time.  I had no idea how much the ADHD had affected our relationship.

I figured out today that I Am ADHD. I am 63' a widower. My wife.committed suicide in 1999' when our children were 16 and 12. They both have college degrees and jobs. I retired at 59 Iin 2007, had a stroke in 2009', sustained an injury in feb. 2009 and have chronic pain and a visual impairment. I had $80,000 in liquid assets in 2009, and nothing now. I can't drive, can't buy a date,pay for a caregiver and realize I thrived under the demands of single parenthood and crumbled in retirement. Is this how we inattentive adhds end up? My therPist doesn't think I"m ADHD.

As I read through the many posts and comments on this site, it strikes me that many do not seem to have read Melissa Orlov's book yet ("The ADHD Effect on Marraige").  PLEASE READ IT TODAY!  It is relatively short and very easy to read quickly.