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I am new to this site but glad I found it. I am 30 years old, married for almost 6 years. We have two small children (3 and 8 months) together and he's in Grad school. We've been to counseling in the past and "worked" on some things we were having difficulties in. Because he is in grad school, in archeology, he has spent many weeks away doing research. At times when he has been away he has been so hyper-focused on his work he has not called to check in on us, or has not picked up the phone when we try to call him over 9 hour or so periods.

Hi - I just read the sample chapters.  I do have a question about being "normal."  I read that I as the non-add souse need to realize that there is nothing broken or not normal about their add spouse. It seems that I need to take the leap to truly understand that his way of doing life and perceiving the world is not of lesser value than my "normal" ways. I fully admit I have a hard time at this. I don't think it is normal to not keep a job or even look for one. I don't think it is normal to use bank overdrafts as a valid means of money.

Hi, I am new to this forum. I was in tears last night as I read all of these posts. I am so exhausted by my husband's ADD. We have been together 15 years and have 2 young boys ages 3 and 6. hubby was Dx with ADD in November. I am a Social Worker who is working in a different field right now but I have been a family psychotherapist. Funny how you can sometimes more easily help as an outsider what you can't change as an insider! Anyhow...I want to get some ideas about how ADD affects parenting. It is affecting our relationship...which I know the children feel.

My husband was just diagnosed with ADHD, although he's obviously had it his whole life. They didn't get him any RX yet, though, because he needed some blood work and an EKG. It's been a long haul to get him to even go and get evaluated, and I've been hanging on with the hope that once he gets on a treatment plan, things will start to turn around and get better. We've been married 7 years, have two young kids, and while he has slipped into disarray more and more, it wasn't until the fall that things started to get really bad.

My husband and I have been together 5 years.  He was diagnosed with ADD at 15.  He was on Concerta for a time and said that the doctor adjusted the dosage a couple times, my husband admits that the medication "helped a little" but chronic insomnia led my husband to just stop taking the medication.  His family lived in Singapore at the time.  His father is Asian Indian and his mother is Ukrainian, so their views of medication, therapy and medical practices are different than Americans.  They never got him therapy or anything else.  Just medication and when my husband stopped, they didn't p

I have recently moved back in with my husband after a 1 year separation.  We've been married for 13 years and don't have kids.  He's very high functioning ADD and was diagnosed last year.  Since I've known him for 25 years, I always knew he had extraordinary struggles with procrastination, closure and deadlines, but I didn't really understand it was because of the way his brain worked until the past year or so.

I have noticed that when the pills my husband is taking for his ADD wear off (when it is about time for another dose) his ADD returns worse than ever. Perhaps, I am now used to the new improved person and what I'm seeing is the way he was previous to taking the pills.  It really does seem like his ADD is worse than ever without the pills, but drastically improved while the pills are in effect.  Has anyone else noticed this about their spouse?  

So a week of being around and connected (somewhat), ends badly w dh first coming home late without letting me know where he was- til he came home drunk, to last night just not coming home. I was up repeatedly once an hour calling but no answer til now when he states he "fell asleep in the car" because he was so tired. I believe him yet does that matter? He is disappearing! I also think he was drinking again- i know this is an issue and its not getting any better. Ultimately though, what happened, you ask? He started cursing at me - because I am all "controlling".

I am ADHD and my wife is non-ADHD. We have been married for 19 years - no kids. I was diagnosed and medicated starting 15 years ago (take concerta) and went to therapy until 12 years ago. I learned some organizational skills (using calendar, etc) but did not do anything about my social skills and have poisoned our marriage as a consequence. I just saw an ADHD-specialized therapist for the first time yesterday - this was triggered by our marriage being in crisis - because of my unresolved ADHD symptoms and denial.

BACKGROUND: Sometimes my DH will get a little frustrated that I check with him about every little thing or want him to make every decision.  Sometimes he wishes I would just handle things on my own and take them off his (over-full) plate.