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I'm the non-ADHD spouse. Right now we are just engaged. We have been so for a year now. She has been unable to decide on a wedding date, time, place. We have been together for over 3 years now. Like many of us I was overwhelmed and enchanted by how she viewed me the first few months, they were idyllic. But over time I've lost her attention. I don't know how many times I've started arguments just to get her attention. I have had horrible stress the past few months because I am moving from one company to another, a move I need to make to help us pay the bills and have a good life.

I found this site when I googled "irresponsible husband." I'm so angry and full of frustration over my husband's behavior. I've long suspected he has ADHD, but he will not see any type of doctor, so there is no way to know. It has been so helpful for me to read many of your posts and to feel I am not alone.

I am new to this so I will try not to ramble too much. I am definitely an ADHD spouse, but not so much on the 'H'. I was officially diagnosed last september, though I always knew there was something. I guess over the years I just learned on my own to, for the most part, manage the symptoms myself, but could just never get control of the focus part. My husband and I have been married for 6 years, and most of it has been pretty rough. We have both said and done mean things, and created a lot of damage to each other.

HELP!!   I will have to say that I was "officially" diagnosed about 5 months ago, after being told by my family physician that he could no longer prescribe Adderall XR without a Clinical Diagnosis.  My "unofficial" diagnosis began about 5 years ago, after my son was diagnosed and a different family doctor asked me a couple of questions and wrote out a rx for Ritalin...then a few months later Concerta...then Adderall and after that...Adderall XR.  There was no counseling suggested...no resources provided...just "take this and see how you do on it".   Of course being "self diagnosed" with A

1 month post break up from ADHD spouse, and I still can't figure out how to get me back. I feel like this man broke me down mentally and emotionally with all of the lying, manipulation, and deceitfulness. I can't even figure out how much of what I shared with him was the truth or a lie. Is it just me or are the ADHD spouses just in denial about almost everything? And maybe this isn't everyone's story but it was mine... why was everything my fault? Why is everything still my fault?

I hope I'm right about him having ADHD.  I pray I'm right because at least then I'll be able to not take things so personally.

My husband and I are almost positive that he has inattentive ADD. He will be formally evaluated for it next week. We have been married for almost four years and have been together for seven years total. I should have seen the signs that ADD was having an impact on our relationship from the very beginning, but I didn't. When it was brought up years ago, I figured that the "I might have ADD" line was just one of the many excuses I was given every time a promise was broken, a task was undone, a lie was told, etc.

Am I the only one (with the exception of about 3-4 other couples) dealing with their ADD spouse addictions?  In my brief search on this topic, I do not know if my husband's addiction to PORN is something that's ADD related or simply something that he wants to do.

In the morning, PORN, mid morning PORN, noon PORN, afternoon PORN, evening PORN, midnight PORN.  Ughhhhhh I feel so sexually inadequate.  Brief history to get you caught up... been married for 7 years, 2 young children, hubby recently diagnosed with ADD (in the past year). 

Caught up?  Good...

So I have had many of the same experiences riding the rollercoaster of ADHD as many of you.  I am the spouse of someone with ADHD.  I am not going to get into specifics because I am simply tired of thinking about the specifics.  My spouse has put me though financial disaster, emotional exhaustion, even physical abuse (that is one of the toughest to swallow).  I am beat down and physically exhausted...even developed psoriasis and a very low immune system due to all the stress.  It has affected my job and overall self worth.  I am exercising now and trying to find myself and my joyful self

Well , this explains a ton to me. At least I know now I don't have Alzheimer with all the things I forget I said or did.  I'm not one to lose things as much as to forget what I said or did in the past.  But guess what? My guy who I've lived with for the past 8 years never forgets anything I've said and trust me ends up to be the root of many of our disagreements.  He remembers my words verbatim. All I remember is how I felt at the time which never wins the argument.   Its the words that win that I can never remember.