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I have recently moved back in with my husband after a 1 year separation.  We've been married for 13 years and don't have kids.  He's very high functioning ADD and was diagnosed last year.  Since I've known him for 25 years, I always knew he had extraordinary struggles with procrastination, closure and deadlines, but I didn't really understand it was because of the way his brain worked until the past year or so.

I have noticed that when the pills my husband is taking for his ADD wear off (when it is about time for another dose) his ADD returns worse than ever. Perhaps, I am now used to the new improved person and what I'm seeing is the way he was previous to taking the pills.  It really does seem like his ADD is worse than ever without the pills, but drastically improved while the pills are in effect.  Has anyone else noticed this about their spouse?  

So a week of being around and connected (somewhat), ends badly w dh first coming home late without letting me know where he was- til he came home drunk, to last night just not coming home. I was up repeatedly once an hour calling but no answer til now when he states he "fell asleep in the car" because he was so tired. I believe him yet does that matter? He is disappearing! I also think he was drinking again- i know this is an issue and its not getting any better. Ultimately though, what happened, you ask? He started cursing at me - because I am all "controlling".

I am ADHD and my wife is non-ADHD. We have been married for 19 years - no kids. I was diagnosed and medicated starting 15 years ago (take concerta) and went to therapy until 12 years ago. I learned some organizational skills (using calendar, etc) but did not do anything about my social skills and have poisoned our marriage as a consequence. I just saw an ADHD-specialized therapist for the first time yesterday - this was triggered by our marriage being in crisis - because of my unresolved ADHD symptoms and denial.

BACKGROUND: Sometimes my DH will get a little frustrated that I check with him about every little thing or want him to make every decision.  Sometimes he wishes I would just handle things on my own and take them off his (over-full) plate.  

I have been married for almost two years.  I knew my husband struggled with adhd when we got into this, but I had no idea the scope of his problems and the fact that his mother has enabled him by giving him most everything he wants and loaning or giving him tens of thousands of dollars over the years (no they aren't wealthy! I think they may be in serious debt because of this) when he mismanages his money.

Has anyone had to deal with an ADHD partner's wandering eye? I discovered my husband's profile on a free dating web site.  He hasn't posted a picture and the site is known to be a joke.  But I am just wondering if anyone has experienced this.  I know the hyper focusing and need for new and exciting ventures is appealing to the ADHD person. I'm just trying to get my head around it.  It happened before, long before we were married.  And nothing came of it.  I just thought I'd ask everyone here if this is a common thing or not. 

My husband, who has ADD just called me while i am at work...crying his heart out.  He starts off by complaining that everything he touches turns to sh*t, nothing is working right, I'm not there for him, his kids don't want to be around him, I don't understand him, he feels fat...you name it....he was crying about it.  So, i am not entirely sure how I should feel about this, nor what I should do.  this isn't the first time he's broken down like this, but it is the first time while sober.  He's in counseling, he has a psychiatrist, I'm in counseling, and we're both in couples counseling.  W

This is my first venture into the forum world and I am hopeful to get some good advice. In recent weeks, the rug has been pulled from underneath me and I feel as though though the life I have been living has been somewhat of a lie. My husband and I have been married for almost 6 years and have a 2 1/2 year son. My husband also has a son from a previous marriage who is with us 4 days per week. We both work full time and have very busy but happy (or so I thought) lives. After an argument a few weeks ago, we uncovered several issues that we both agreed needed to be worked on.

I would like to know what Careers work for ADHD people.  What jobs do ADHD people do that can keep them stimulated and happy rather then job hopping?  I know my self I have ADHD and my longest job has been 3 years but is often then then a year.  I would like to change careers but don't know what would be good to get into to keep me enthusiastic and interested.  I know a good career can help a relationship go smooth as well and mine needs help.   I have read how some ADHD people don't work so I guess I am doing better then some people, but there is room for improvement.  I guess when I hav