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I'm writing for the first time hoping to receive some insight. My husband has ADD, takes meds and is aware of the challenges it has posed and continues to pose in his life. I have read all the books about ADHD and he reads them when things get bad and he feels he "should".  We have been to much counseling but he doesn't follow through and do or stick with the advice and tools he is given. When i explain the pain and anguish, he says he's sorry and he'll have to try harder. I know it's not about trying harder! It's about using the right tools, changing bad habits and working on it daily.

DH and I started back with our daily meetings (his request after needing his space). We had a largely positive conversation (YAY!) We talked through some issues from the past weeks (during the time that he was in his space 3+ weeks).

DH took himself off fluoxitine (for depression -has been on this for 4+ years) and dextroamphetine XR (ADD- on for close 18 months+)because he didn't like how they made him feel. A month has past and he made the comment (last night) of he doesn't feel like he is in a fog any longer and feels the best he has in a very long time/normal. That he can focus and concentrate when he needs to at work.  He claims that he feels his ADD is under control without the meds and will not go back to meds ever. 

Hi. I am a married 37 year old female recently diagnosed with ADHD. It never presented in my younger years, but it is suspected that I probably had it. Growing up I went to Catholic school and lived on a military base and my mother ruled with an iron fist. I have always been regimented with my time.

   

It's so heartbreaking to read around this forum, a lot of happiness and good things too of course, but a lot of sadness. I always feel a little numb and I ended up writing this. It's quite long and I don't expect anyone to read through it but maybe it can help someone somewhere. I'm a wife married to the love of my life, but in our case I am the one with ADD, "ruining everything".

"Dear my husband, I'm sorry I couldn't do your laundry"

Dear my husband,

I have a wife that needs help but will not seek it. She is 38 and has a generational history with ADD and ADHD. Mom, Brother,Uncle etc. She is always yelling at me and the kids and cannot complete any task around the house with out it talking hours (sometimes days) and constant reminding by me... which she hates with a passion. I try picking up after her but I feel its not solving the problem but instead making me more resentful for having to pick up after her.

Hi,

I have been diagnosed with adult ADD for several years now. My wife often calls me out for staring at other women, which she finds offensive and hurtful.  In many cases, I am completely and totally unaware that I have been staring.  I frequently accused her of making it up, which engendered even more hurt feelings and inevitably an argument. I now accept that it does happen, and she has noticed that I also occasionally stare at men, children, animals, or inanimate objects.

I want to address the anger and verbal abuse with my ADHD spouse.   Its out of control and I feel im living on egg shells.  I cant deal with the bipolar extreme ups then bam youre being verbally abused  I want us to get help together so I can learn to understand ADHD personality and adjust things I do to help.   I want him to understand the affect it has on me and for him to take responsibility to controll his own anger Let me set the stage of our relationship and a describe typical evenings.   Married 7  years My ADHD husband is Irish and a Scorpio.