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The following is a list of common reasons why couples get divorced. I am frustrated to say upon in depth research that my untreated ADD were behind each that happened unfortunately. Of the ones I have identified, I was responsible for the breakup. I left while in a down period and some 1 + year later I still think about what could have been. My untreated ADD hurt my life for 40+ years and I did not know how until a few months ago...but we must move on.

So, I had a long week last week.  At work, we had a week long review which meant long hours.  After I get home, at 9pm, my husband tells me that he may be getting fired.  And he is SHOCKED!  *sigh*  Let me start off with saying, he works for his parents business.  So, he was performing so poorly for such a long time, even his father is having a hard time employing him (though his father, or any family member, is not his direct manager).  He has been performing poorly for about 2 years, and we've talked about it, I've warned him that he wasn't following through on his projects and that he

DH is off his med's for the next 4 weeks before deciding what they will do at that point (new med/same meds/no meds?). The counseling sessions will be all about him only for him until he decides otherwise. 

DH has been withdrawn from me (specifically) chooses when to interact with the kids (usually only if they will do something that he is interested in). 

Friday January 14th I was served divorce papers I found out later that afternoon that future ex (he has the ADD) told our oldest son @ home that it would happen the night before. (Is that putting child in the middle?)
Not sure if the youngest knew or not, thinking not but ............

Hello,

 As a young child I was diagnosed with ADHD. I went threw counceling and the rigours testing of tons of medications. Its very difficult to sit and concentrate on something for long periods of time that im not interested in.

I am new to this site.  I recently read Melissa's book.  I have also read a couple of Ned's book and just purchased two more.  The bottom line is I am wondering if there are other people out there who are dealing with a partner who has both ADHD and bipolar disorder.  I am not sure if focusing on the ADHD alone will help our marriage, or if there are other resources I need to look into.  Right now I don't want to be married, but I financially cannot make it on my own in a high priced area in the U.S.  In addition, I have twin sons who have high functioning autism.  I need my husband for t

I'm new here. Well, new to posting anything here, but today has just been so miserable that I had to put it all somewhere, and I hope you'll all be gracious enough to allow me the vent. My other half is eight years younger than me, and was diagnosed with ADHD and depression as a child. His mother died when he was young, and his father refused to get treatment for his problems, insisting that he was making it all up for attention and because he was lazy. I know he still suffers terribly from ADHD, and he's acknowledged it himself many times.

Hello Melissa, and everyone,

I am the husband of a wife that I suspect has some sort of ADHD subtype.  I've read 5 books now on the topic (originally suggested by our marriage therapist).  My life with my wife seems to have been recorded and reiterated on nearly every page of those books.  She is highly functioning, and my guess is that most of her difficulties have found hiding places in her coping mechanisms that she has had 53 years to perfect.  This is an elusive disorder in my wife to say the least.

First let me say that finding this website and Melissa's book have been like finding a life preserver in a stormy sea where I was about to drown. I guess it has been about a month and where I thought there was no hope I am finding hope again.