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I have been married to a man with ADHD- hyper focus disorder for 25 years. The only problem is that he completely denies having ANY problem at all. His ability to use his hyper focus has been very successful- as a technology professional it has served him well and been an asset. In our personal life, it has been horrible. But this professional success has led him to believe it really isn't a problem- "it's just the way he is".

I have been thinking a lot about the subject of gifts, after a number of posts from people who felt really hurt this year because of the kind of the gifts they received either for Christmas or some other occasion, or the lack of gift at all.  So I thought I would give my thoughts on gift-giving to the ADD men out there -- I actually think this could be a book in and of itself.  Perhaps my own DH will take a look at this at some point.

Here are the major events for which you SHOULD give a gift, and what you should think about when buying/planning it:

DH has once again, pulled a no-show for our daily meeting.  Not sure what the hell is going on.  Yes, Im still hurt about his behavior the other night, but I have still remained available to him (phone calls to him, tried to attend our counseling meeting this morning but the counsoler didn't show - seems DH forgot to call and schedule the appointment (so its now been 3 full week without a session).

Hi! Recently my 9 year old son was diagnosed with ADD, inattentive type. As my husband and I were going through the array of questions I realized that our 13 year old son exhibits strong symptoms as well as my husband of 17 years! This revelation is both exciting and frightening. Currently, we are meeting with a Clinical Psychologist specializing in adult ADHD shortly after the new year while having our 13 year old evaluated and  starting the 9 year old on medication.

Where does the short temper angry flares come from? DH lashed out last night - for no reason. We were having a normal, calm conversation and then BAM! It happened so fast - it was over before you could even register what happened - but it did happen.  I asked him to leave - I told him to leave - he refused.  I said you need to leave for the night - get your head on straight - give us all some space.  He refused. Said he was sorry- as if that was enough and now move on. I don't know if he gets what he did - the man I KNEW would never have behaved that way.

I am dating someone with ADHD, and we are at a transition point in our relationship.  He is wanting us to become more serious, and I am very fond of him, but we have already had quite a few problems in the 3 months we have been dating.  To be fair, I have my own special set of issues and problems that he has been very respectful of.  Also, I have been in therapy for years to work on my problems, and I feel like I'm a pretty healthy, well-rounded individual at this point.  I am trying to learn more about what I can realistically expect out of him, what he is capable of working on, and what

Hello. I'm new here but not new to the many problems of an ADD marriage. I've been married for a long time and like many of you have tried to tackle my marriage problems for many years. About 8 years ago, we went through marriage counseling, briefly. I came to the incorrect conclusion that ADD behaviors could not be changed, so I was just going to have to live with those behaviors. Fast forward 8 years later and many Drug/mental health counseling sessions later, and my hope for my marriage is dead. This after trying to raise an ADD child who turned to drugs and crime.

I just can't deal any more. I got no Christmas present at all, not even a card. For my birthday in early December, he did take me out to dinner and bought me a cell phone. BUT, he bought one I can't use and lost the receipt so we can't return it (might as well have set fire to a $50 bill).

I want to find HOPE. The hardest thing for me to say is "help me". Not saying it is prideful and vain and won't get me any help, so "Help"! Remember - I want positive things. "I WANT" them. At the point I am at now, I have no self confidence, self loathing, failure beliefs, ADD etc, etc... but I want to change and in my past when I get to this low point - my saving grace has been to listen, really listen to what people who love me are saying and take the advice offered. So... a little background.

I have been seeing my ADHD diagnosed boyfriend for a little over a year, we are both 39. There have been many ups and downs but I believe he tries hard to be a good "significant other" despite the ADHD. Yet there are continuous issues that keep popping up that I am trying hard to not take personally and put into perspective (accounting for the effects of ADHD) but I am having increasing trouble doing this. (He has a prescription for Ritalin but often forgets to take it so the benefits are questionable).