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hey everyone,

 

i really appreciate this website a lot.

 

my girlfriend has adhd.  knowing that she has it helps deal with the inevitable issues surrounding it, but sometimes it is depressing and irritating to experience it, despite my knowledge that her brain has trouble allocating attention.

This is the second marriage for both of us.  He is 51, with 3 grown kids, I am 31 with 3 school age children that spend every- other week with me.

The dynamic that has been developing over this first year of our marriage varies; we seem to trade off in the typical non-ADHD/ ADHD roles. He was diagnosed when he was 44, and single.  He is medicated, completed almost 2 years of therapy, is high functioning, and has had the same job for 8 years.

With apologies to those whose marriages are in real trouble....

My husband is a very sweet man. He takes his meds faithfully, isn't addicted or a wild overspender or anything. But the fact of living with his ADD drives us both nuts. I'm looking for hints on dealing with these things.

One problem is the sheer cost of having ADD. Meds and a psychiatrist are expensive even if you have insurance. We stay broke all the time even though we do not spend frivolously.

Holy cow, what a night I've had!  I have been dealing with a husband who has all the classic signs of ADHD (coupled with co-dependency issues - great combination!) and we've had a rocky relationship for most of the 4 years that we've been together.  At first I thought it was mainly due to our disagreements about how he treated me when it came to situations with his kids from his first marriage, but I'm seeing now that a lot of his behavior is consistent with someone with ADHD.  Anyway...we've had a really rough road of it since we got married 2 years ago and he has done some truly unforgi

I know I have ADD, have been diagnosed with it, but more importantly have recognized the symptoms from early childhood. I have tried several medications over the years, but for various reasons haven't followed through on them.

Hi, My partner has ADD, we have 2 small children together. Things are bad, all the usual stuff really and now I'm at breaking point and feel like theres something screaming inside me "RUN!" But as I said we have 2 children and just "running" is not an option. A couple of weeks ago I ended our relationship but he literally wouldn't accept it.

It has finally come to an end.  I had to get him to leave last night.  It all started because I made the comment that I wished he would have turned the ice maker on when he had mixed himself a drink so that we would have ice now.  And then he goes on to say that he doesn't know how to turn it on or off or if it is even on or off and I had to explain to him that if the green light is on,  it's on and if it's off, it's off.  Then he asked me why it was off and I had to explain that if you did not turn it off then the freezer would be overflowing with ice and that I would expect that anyone wo

My husband and step son (7yrs) have ADHD (not on medication). I have a son (8yrs) with anger problems and a one year old baby. I am a stay home mom and I am in working on my Bachelors. I am a very clean organized person, however my family is very messy and unorganized (I feel like a maid) My husband works 7 days a week, 12 hours a day. (late hours and weekends by choice) We are very much in debt to say the least. My husband has a big problem managing money. We have been together for 7 years, I am starting to feel like our marriage is turning into a mother son relationship.

Here I am at 230am sitting up with a teething screaming baby. My wife seems to be able to convince our 13 month old to sleep by turning him on his side, and giving him a pacifier. He sees me & he gets up bouncing. I work Fri - Mon, so I know she needs a break Sunday night... but trying to teach the baby good habits for the future and keep him settled now seem mutually exclusive. I know I've set his expectations incorrectly which is why she ttells me to deal with it as I've created this situation and maybe this will help me learn the lesson.

Does anyone else deal with their spouse and their odd "requests"?  Example: my ADD husband will insist that we not open the large garage door and use the side door instead.  If one of us chooses to open the large garage door - he is instantly mad!