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After living with my husband for 32 years, and suffering , grief, loss, being constantly lonely, raising 3 children almost single handedly and working to make ends meet, while he squandered our money, spent most of his spare time out enjoying his latest hobby (hyperfocus) completely oblivious to how much I was hurting, I  finally found out that he has ADHD -   He is still in denial, but at least has attended 1 appointment with a Psychiatrist after I threatened to leave 2 months ago.

 I am an ADHD single parent (female) and am in a very critical stage in our relationship (it is with "baby daddy"). We have been off and on for 4 years and reconciled in January and were separated for a year prior.

I'm wanting to meet a therapist who I can work with and trust as much as I trust what I've found in the book.  What should I look for? What questions should I ask of them?

I finally asked my wife (non ADD) to read the book.  But, not the whole book (too much to ask), just the first 30 pages and to tell me what she thinks.   For me, it's been truly eerie to read this book b/c every single paragraph is a "whoa" moment b/c it really feels as if someone has been living in my house with my wife and I and taken notes and put them all to paper.   Well, she made it through the first 17 pages and took this from the book: 1. "You WON'T take any medicine to help the ADD. .

I have to preface this by saying my husband has never been officially diagnosed with this.  It's me who has been looking into it because I thought our marriage sounded just like what Melissa was describing when she was promoting her book.  The more I have been reading though the more I think he has ADD but things aren't too bad with us so I am not pushing him to do anything about this.  I think we are able to get along pretty well because I have a good job and there are just the two of us - no kids to be responsible for.  So he does things that drive me nuts sometimes (like today when he

I would like to hear from anyone who's adhd partner has drinking issues. Either drinking too much, too often, or who seems to totally change into someone/something else when they drink. I am 38, and this morning I came to the conclusion that I have to get rid of alcohol from my life entirely. I've been told by family, friends, and girlfriends that when I drink it's like I'm transformed into someone else; as though I am on the prowl for ANY reason to fight, and if there isn't one then I persist until I get one. It has also ruined me financially over the years.

Firstly, I don't know if this thread has been posted already. If so, I do apologize for a repeat.

 

I've felt enough loneliness in my relationship to last an entire lifetime!

My workaholic ADD partner just accepted a new shift where he works from 4pm-2am Tuesday to Sunday. Meaning, he'll never have or be able to take a Friday or Saturday off. He's suppose to be one of the top guys there so I'm not sure why he's even being asked to work on the weekends?!?!?! The other top guy refused the shift and told my partner to do the same... but my partner "just can't say no".  (he says no to me constantly, heh, interesting!<--- to the point where I even think he has ODD.) 

Hello,

I just ordered this book even though I am not married.  I have been in a long-term relationship with my boyfriend who has ADD.  He definitely has the inattentive disorder and not the hyperactivity.   Luckily he is not impulsive and not a substance abuser.  He actually has a very hard time making ANY decisions and can be very tight with his money, even though he is very successful.

This is a thread to collect ideas from both the ADHD partner and the nonADHD partners to post ideas/strategies that they have tried, and had positive results from. From taking out the garbage, to showing up on time, establishing eating/bedtime routines, to giving/receiving criticisms, communicating needs and handling conflict situations. It might be better if the poster first says if they are the adhd partner (adhd+), or the non adhd partner (adhd-); who's idea it was, how it was brought up, and the results.