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Hello everyone.  It's been awhile since I posted here ....been getting my life together a bit at a time and just taking time for me.   My husband and I separated five months ago...right before my 50th birthday and 26 years of marriage.  It took me awhile to get to the separation point....years even....but I finally took the bull by the horns and asked him to leave.  He didn't want to of course, got angry, defensive etc but he did leave.  Slowly, slowly I've been turning things around a tiny bit at a time.   I had no idea just how bad things had gotten around my house, and how much my self

I don't have ADD but I wonder if I'm a "carrier" as there are a great many people in my family who show signs of ADD. A bit of background:

I am new to this site, and feel grateful to have found it.  I think right now I either need to be "talked off the bridge" leading to divorce or pushed off completely just to finally have some relief.  My marriage is in big trouble and it has been for quite some time.  At this point, there is essentially no communication between us except for the defensive, argumentative variety (if that is even "communicating").  Most days, it's better if we just ignore each other, but this is no way to live either.  I take full responsibility for not always being the most loving, kind wife.

My husband has ADHD, something that was actually one of the things that made him unique, energetic and fun to be around with especially when you are 20 years old, have unrealistic dreams and love to be overwhelmed and swept of your feet. He was on Ritalin as a child for many years.

ADD does not MAKE someone cheat or be unfaithful. Stats show 50% of men cheat and that may be higher than the stats due to laying about it. Blaming cheating on ADD a is lame cop-out.

This is my first time ever writing to a forum. This will be a long, long post. It may not even be allowed.
 

I am so grateful for this site. I have been reading for about six months; you cannot know how valuable all of your sharing has been to me. I am writing because I am earnestly seeking sound advice on a situation in my life.
 

Almost two years ago, during the course of my job I met a charming and wonderful man. It turned out we had many shared acquaintances, We had a lot in common, including the fact we were both in AA.  

Background: Hubby (42) has ADHD and anxiety (both only diagnosed 3 years ago, so lots of baggage too) as well as chronic pain and depression. I have been attending a Carer Support Group called GROW Better Together... based on the GROW program, but specifically for Mental Health Carers.

Please don't tell me this isn't just ADHD, I already know that. But ADHD and its late diagnosis is a major factor.

I have been married for 15 years to an ADD husband.  He is medicated, we have been in counseling, not currently, but the counselor is kind of on "stand by"--we see her as needed.  Most of the time we do okay, but man the lying thing--WHAT IS THAT?!?!  Our whole married life, hubby lies about small stupid things.  He has always been terrible with money to the point that I took him off our accounts because he overdrew then, gave the debit card to a friend, etc., so he has his own account with a small amount of spending/gas money in it.  Guess what?  He overdrew that and there is no savings

Ok, my first question is, is ADHD a genetically transfered condition?  For instance, my father just got out of prison about a month ago and my mom keeps saying, i just cannot believe how much alike you two are.  Well, we found out that i have adhd about a month or two ago and well, every thing makes since.  Plus every simpton that help guide listed, well, my mom said "baby, that describes you to a tee."  And that's what I thought, well I was like, holy s*** that's me!  And I guess you could look up adhd symtoms and helpguide, well ok it says ahda in child ren but its also for adults: