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I do not have ADHD, but my spouse does. He was diagnosed as an adult and he carries a huge burden with him of poor friend and family relationships - even though he is a smart, sincere, funny guy with a huge heart. I guess I saw these traits from the start and because I can do the organizing in the relationship I just sort of took on those responsibilities because he is very talented in other areas. These "other areas" do make up for what he can't do around the home... but sometimes I still get frustrated.

My husband and I have been married for 19 years.  But for the last 12 years he has not contributed financially to our family.  He quitted his job and started his own business.  We agreed to this new venture for two years.  The business did not take off.  He tried several other businesses after that.  Nothing really worked.  He seems to have a problem with clutters.  Our place is a two bedroom condo.  The second bedroom has always been used as his "office/storage" cluttered with boxes and stuff.  It is in complete disarray.  I am not allowed to organize anything in this room.  One day I disc

I am constantly resentful at my husband because he seems just downright lazy!  This evening I went to the grocery store since we have a busy weekend ahead of us and I wanted to get a jump start ....  I arrive back home with a trunk full of groceries, it's dark, there is construction of the curbs in front of our home so there is some ditches and gravel to navigate.  I open the door, no one is around - kids are in bed, husband is in the basement - in his "man cave" - watching TV.  I start bringing in the groceries, expecting that any minute he will walk up the stairs and start helping me ..

 

My wife and I are going on 10 years since we first started dating exclusively.  We've been living together for 6 years, and married for nearly four.  Things have deteriorated rapidly in the past year. In the past two months, we've had explosive arguments occasionally ending with, "Leave me already; you're making me miserable!" or "Nothing about you makes me happy anymore!"

I'm quite certain that much of our problem is directly related to our mental conditions.  Explosive confrontations are not me.  I have patience, and would prefer to let things cool down.

I just posted in a different thread and ended with the following: 

"I'm not sure why my wife and others seem to think that if I ask it, I am *demanding* it be met *right away* or even *at all.*  That is quite an assumption on her part."

I met my husband online 4 years ago. We fall in love and still are crazy about each other. But we argue alot, because of small things, misunderstandings,difficult comunication( he says my English is not good enough)...I suffered a lot, because I love him.Finally we decided for me to come here to get married and to live together in the US.

and it is making my life difficult to manage. I am hopefully starting a new job next week. Once I find out what insurance I have and which ADD related treatment and diagnosis are covered I am ready to begin getting help. Where do I begin? And what do I do until I can diagnosed and treated?

My husband is seeing a new psychiatrist, who may not know anything about ADD. When my husband was describing his ADD symptoms the doctor said "you are disabled" but my husband is working and wants to continue to do so. The doctor took him off anti-depressants, which we think is a mistake. The theory seems to be that the anit-depressants keep the ADD meds from working right. But Wellbutrin is often prescribed for ADD, so we don't understand how that could be keeping the Concerta from working.

I am planning to divorce my ADHD husband. It's been a long time coming. One of the reasons I did not do this sooner is that I fear that he won't do what he's supposed to do when it comes to gathering paperwork, responding to summons, getting his stuff out, etc. I don't want this to drag on and on and on. I also fear going completely broke but my parents are offering to help me which makes me feel a bit better.