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I have been married for 6 and a half yrs. Last year my husband was told he had ADHD, for him it was what he needed personally, because many things finally made sense to him about himself and the whys of things.  For me...I must admit I was skeptical, even wrong.  What I mean is that upon learning of his situation I desprately held on to the misconeption that once he got medication that things would miraculously fall into place, that things would get done, I would get consideration from him and that the fights would become less.

My husband and I will soon have been married for 35 years. It's been difficult. The last 10 years have been very diffucult.

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  I am new to this site and thank god I found this, because it's been insightful in helping me navigate and understand my boyfriend's ADHD symptoms and realizing that I am not alone in my feelings of frustration, disappointment and anger.

So, my wife and I have been arguing much less often.  In fact - hardly at all.  And, we have been having more quality time together.  We both remarked on this yesterday - that we are enjoying that we are getting along better.  This morning, she said "So, why do you think we have been getting along so well.  Have you been trying harder?  I said - Yes.  She said she wasn't doing anything differently.  And I think she was about to ask me what I was doing differently.  And I wasn't sure how to answer that, so I said - I really don't want to talk about this right now.  She said "Hmmmmm."  My gue

My wife seems to often have what seem to be double standards.  She will become angry with me for doing exactly the same thing that she does, and then I get angry because I feel like I I have been treated "unfairly."  A recent example is this:  My wife often does not respond to me when she is playing a game or reading something on her iPhone.  I have told her how I feel when she does that, to no avail.  So I have learned not to take it personally.  The other night I was in bed playing a game on MY iPhone and she cuddled up to me.  I continued playing the game.  And at the time I was aware th

I can't take it anymore. I don't know what to do. I've read most of the posts on this board and several books, but I really have no idea what to do anymore. It's a LONG story, but I attempted suicide twice a few months ago. There was one horrible, nasty fight a month after the second attempt, but there has been no verbal abuse since then. Why do I stay? A loaded question.

Hi guys,

Hi all, 

I’m new to this site and very thankful to have found it, perhaps too late to move forward with my spouse of 17 years, but I really want to try.

It's been a while since I was here.  I am ABSOLUTELY convinced my ADD spouse has Borderline Personality Disorder.  I am emotionally detached (out of self protection) from my wife because of her BPD.  I wish it were easier to just walk away from the marriage.

I just saw a post from Dr. Hallowell re ADD spouses with other disorders.  It was posted about a year ago, suggested that someone like me seek "support groups" but listed none.

Is anyone else like me out there who has suggestions?  I love my wife but I'm not a masochist. 

MAP, Esq.