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My husband is diagnosed with ADD and depression. He's been taking the same anti-depressant for years successfully. Then we realized he has ADD too, and found him a doctor to prescribe ADD meds.

I am beyond exhausted and I don't know what to do. My ADD husband* falls into an awful "cycle" or "pattern" whenever I have needs. It goes something like this:

I'm new to this site and am looking for some other perspectives I guess. This is going to turn out to be very long so I apologize in advance. I was diagnosed with ADD about 2 years ago. I started taking medication and was going to counseling with a therapist who specializes in the disorder. When I was first diagnosed, my husband was deployed. When he returned home a few months later I became pregnant with our daughter. Because of the pregnancy, I was taken off of my meds and have yet to go back on. I have been nursing my daughter and didn't think I could go back on.

Not sure if this topic should go in this forum or not.......Anyway, if it needs to be moved I guess it will be.....

To the list of fantastic ADHD books already recommended, I'd like to add one not specific to, but perhaps helpful for ADHD challenges: "Positivity..." by Dr. Barbara Fredrickson. The author explains the results of her studies (she's at UNC) and others that support how a certain ratio of positivity to negativity (not a "Polly Anna" response) is effective for expanding one's opportunities for success. I am not a scientist and have not read the referenced studies, but it seems worth further exploration.

I am frustrated dealing with my husband who has both ADD and depression (both treated with meds). He has this "I can't" mentality that drives me nuts. Whenever I need/want him to do somthing that's outside his comfort zone he'll say he can't.

I am the ADHD spouse, my husband is not, and has very little experience with others who have ADHD.  I don't tend to have as many issues with the Inattentive symptoms as I've developed a lot of coping mechanisms for these issues from when I was younger, but the Hyperactive and Impuslive symptoms I still struggle with.  Sitting still for long periods of time, thinking before I speak, and so on.  But really, I've gotten a good hang of listening over the last few years so that isn't really a problem.  It's not talking I have a problem with either, I can make conversation and keep it going, but

I have ADD, so what. I provide for my wife, I hold down a good job, I am faithful, I don't abuse drugs or alcohol, there are few fathers that love their daughter more than me, but being married seems impossible. I love my wife very much, I hate marriage. My wife and I have been married for 5 years. I started being treated with meds for ADD about 7 months ago, and I swear things are worse. I hate being on meds. The fact that I need to take something to be "normal" is about the most emasculating thing I have ever gone through.

I'm new to the forum, but I've been coming to this site for about a year now to read advice on dealing with my ADHD husband (I do not have ADD/ADHD).  We've been together for over 12 years (since high school) and the past several years have been total rollercoaster rides.  We have always had very rocky times, but when he was finally diagnosed with ADHD 2 years ago, things got a little better because we both knew what was causing these problems.  His ADHD manifests itself in extreme forgetfulness, lack of ambition/motivation, disregard for other people's feelings (especially mine), hyperfocu

I hope the authors of this blog don't mind me recommending a book that I have found really helpful... and I haven't even finished reading yet :)

It's called 'Just Listen' by Mark Goulston. It's about turning yourself around to a different point of view... where instead of trying to get your point across, you try and understand the other person's issues. My hubby loves and trusts me, but when I use certain tactics to try to get my message across, he gets defensive and paranoid that I am trying to push my own agenda.