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I have been trying a combination of things with my ADHD wife so that we don't end up fighting all the time.  Things like not constantly criticizing her every time I notice she forgets to do something or when she again does something I repeatedly asked her not to because it upsets me in some way or other; setting clearer limits and "natural" consequences, such as leaving at the agreed upon time evn if it means she comes later in her own car so that I don't end up feeling angry and frustrated all the time; and taking time for myself - getting together with friends without my wife and suggesti

I often feel like I am doing little acts of kindness for my wife - getting her morning coffee when I am the first one up, cleaning her glasses when I clean mine, emptying the dishwasher when I get home before her, offering her a snack when I get up to get one for myself - I could go on and on.  And it feels like she hardly ever returns the favor in kind.  I'm thinking that these things just don't make it to her radar - and that it has to do with her ADHD.  In fact, I HOPE it's related to her ADHD, else it would mean she is a thoughtless person.  This is beginning to take it's toll in that w

Everybody, I really, really need some help to make an important decision here.  Please help me decide what to do because I'm at my wits' end.

I need to decide whether my husband is dangerous or not, so I can make the right decision about whether or not to let him be deported.

I'm trying to find out if this is a trait of my husband's personality, or a feature of ADHD, so I wanted to know if anyone else ahs experienced this from their spouse?

This is the first time i have ever written into a forum. at this point i am willing to try ANYTHING! My wife has recently been diagnosed with add. Her child was diagnosed years ago with it.

Hello everyone,

I discovered this forum two days ago, and I still can't believe that after all these years of being at a loss, desperate and lonely in my relationship I may have found what it was all about!

It's a strange feeling - at first, it seemed like a revelation; I felt a sense of exhilaration, relief, and hope. Finally, so many things made sense! But now I am also scared about what it all means for the future, and wonder if it is too late to unlearn the destructive / negative cycles we've been mired in for at least 6 years.

With just about everything in life I get 95% finished and then I'm done with whatever it is. I don't know if it is that my head has moved on to the next thing, or I let myself believe that I am finished or maybe both? At any rate... I'm pretty sure this is part of my ADD and it is causing problems especially since I am currently a stay at home mom. The house is my job and with my inability to finish things I am horrible at it. It's causing depression in me and frustration/resentment in my DH.

All of this to ask... What do you do to make sure that you finish household tasks?

Wow.  I thought I was so anal and out of line with my constant "nagging."  I thought it was an unfair stamp and it made me feel like my mother.  I've read that evil word a few times now and it's all too familiar around my place.

Arg. I'm trying to be open with my individual counselor, but he seems really fixated on the idea that I (and all of the tests my husband has taken and doctors he's seen) have missed the diagnosis. He doesn't believe that the spectrum of behavior displayed by my partner is due to ADHD. When I tell him that I'm very active in research and on this website, and that his case and behaviors are largelyl textbook, he tells me to be careful what I read. He doesn't think things like making excuses or starting projects and not finishing them are ADHD behaviors...and he treats ADD and ADHD patients.

I'm sure there are lots of posts on this issue, but there are just too many post to wade through.  For those of you have been around awile, I apologize for bringing up what I am sure you have heard many times, but I reallt need some advice.

My wife and I have so many struggles over communications.  Actually, it would be more accurate to say I have many issues with the way SHE communicates.  She doesn't seem to think there are any issues at all, except that I keep telling her I have issues.

The issues seem to be too many to go into here, but three common ones are: