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I am frustrated dealing with my husband who has both ADD and depression (both treated with meds). He has this "I can't" mentality that drives me nuts. Whenever I need/want him to do somthing that's outside his comfort zone he'll say he can't.

I am the ADHD spouse, my husband is not, and has very little experience with others who have ADHD.  I don't tend to have as many issues with the Inattentive symptoms as I've developed a lot of coping mechanisms for these issues from when I was younger, but the Hyperactive and Impuslive symptoms I still struggle with.  Sitting still for long periods of time, thinking before I speak, and so on.  But really, I've gotten a good hang of listening over the last few years so that isn't really a problem.  It's not talking I have a problem with either, I can make conversation and keep it going, but

I have ADD, so what. I provide for my wife, I hold down a good job, I am faithful, I don't abuse drugs or alcohol, there are few fathers that love their daughter more than me, but being married seems impossible. I love my wife very much, I hate marriage. My wife and I have been married for 5 years. I started being treated with meds for ADD about 7 months ago, and I swear things are worse. I hate being on meds. The fact that I need to take something to be "normal" is about the most emasculating thing I have ever gone through.

I'm new to the forum, but I've been coming to this site for about a year now to read advice on dealing with my ADHD husband (I do not have ADD/ADHD).  We've been together for over 12 years (since high school) and the past several years have been total rollercoaster rides.  We have always had very rocky times, but when he was finally diagnosed with ADHD 2 years ago, things got a little better because we both knew what was causing these problems.  His ADHD manifests itself in extreme forgetfulness, lack of ambition/motivation, disregard for other people's feelings (especially mine), hyperfocu

I hope the authors of this blog don't mind me recommending a book that I have found really helpful... and I haven't even finished reading yet :)

It's called 'Just Listen' by Mark Goulston. It's about turning yourself around to a different point of view... where instead of trying to get your point across, you try and understand the other person's issues. My hubby loves and trusts me, but when I use certain tactics to try to get my message across, he gets defensive and paranoid that I am trying to push my own agenda.

Hi.  My husband haas ADHD that was diagnosed at age 33.  We now have two kids, ages 4 and 2.  I have read on this site that there is a strong environmental component, but I don't really know what that means specifically.  What I'm wondering, are there things I can do in our household that would help my children at this stage?  Neither has a diagnosis and I don't have any particular concerns.  If there's anything I can do to help them, (not get ADHD?  present more mildly? cope with it if they ever are diagnosed?) I want to do it. 

I have aquestion for non-ADDers:  How do you respond when you spouse tells you she meant to do something, but in fact, didn't?  I'm not talking about a situation in which she forgot to do something she said she was going to do.  I'm talking about something else.

It seems that my wife is always stressed.  Whether it is because she takes too much on, has trouble planning her time, procrastinates, doesn't know when things she is doing are "good enough" or a combination of all of these (which I suspect), the fact is, she is always very stressed.  I, on the other hand, am almost never stressed.  I have arranged my life so that I have minimal stress.  I know how to say no and set limits, and I am a very good judge of what I can accomplish in a given amount of time, know how to build in "cushions" for the unexpected, etc.  Balance of work, church

I'm not sure what forum this belongs on, so I'll try here as my current emotional state is centering around frustration.

As I read the posts of women that are frustrated, tired, and angry at having to deal with their ADHD spouse I am left wondering. Is it really ADHD that causes these things? Could it be just personality traits? Is the ADHD a diagnosis that allows the affected individual to not take responsibility for their actions?

Do women who do NOT have ADHD spouses experience the same frustrations that those of us with effected spouses do? I would say yes. How much then is due to the dx and how much is due to other factors?