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I found this pdf online, but I don't know who to give credit to.  It sounds like a student at Cornell wrote a paper on boundaries.  I think I will use this as the basis of creating some new boundaries of my own.  Having weak boundaries causes a lot of unnecessary pain.

https://www.cs.cornell.edu/home/kreitz/Christian/Boundaries/04ten_laws.pdf

Brenda

Why do I feel like I'm the one with the problem here?

I have recently been diagnosed with ADHD and am currently taking medication to help with the symptoms.  While this is helping, I recognize that I need regular therapy to help me better understand my condition and improve my overall self-esteem. I know that until I do this, I will struggle to improve my marriage and that when I land that next job, i will come across the same problems I experienced in the past.  I am recently unemployed however, and while I am on COBRA, there are very few therapists on my plan, and most have little if no focused training on ADHD. 

The man I am involved with has ADHD. He is currently on Adderall and thinks that's all he needs to do. He decides what he has to do during the day and then decides when he should take his medication. Everything I have read indicates that the medication should be taken at the same time everyday to help with ADHD symptoms (distraction, hyperfocusing, lethargy, etc). Any time I ask him about that he gets very defensive and shuts down. Sometimes the things he says makes me think he may also have some depression as well and it worries me that he isn't addressing it.

I'm just wondering if there is any information out there about ADHD and post pardum depression ("PPD")?  It would be very helpful as I haven't been able to find anything.  In my experience ADHD and PPD seem to aggravate each other and I was therefore wondering if there is any information which could help me. 

I am a stay at home mother of 3 children age 4 and under. That alone is exhausting and can make me lose my patience easily by the time my husband- when he lived here- came home from work anytime after 8pm. He works weekends, with every other Sunday off and one day a week. Whenever he had a day off he would golf or just sit and watch tv, play with his Blackberry, anything but me. Now he has decided he wants a seperation because "I don't know." or for my happiness, that I deserve someone who will love me the way I deserve to be loved. I seemed miserable, I was but I wasn't.

My husband was diagnosed with ADHD and severe depression in June three years ago.  The reason I had him diagnosed was because I caught him cheating on me by giving me an STD.  After 17 years of marriage and knowing from the beginning this was the only thing I could not tolerate, he did it anyway.  I immediately seeked council of my minister as well as a therapist.  I learned that if I wanted to save my marriage, I had to forgive him with the understanding that he would change.  He claimed he cheated on me with prostitutes, three times in three years.  I never believed that and thought he ha

Have you ever reached the point where you don't care if they have ADD/ADHD or how you will survive, or how it will affect the children if you just put out your ADD spouse or left them? I'm at that point with my husband. I'm sure it would cause trauma to my daughter to not have her own father around and I would still be broke financially but I'm just so over it. I literally want to him and his ADD to go out the door and pray for the poor woman that will be the next victim to suffer him.

I am 22 years old and although im not married to my boyfriend yet, we live together. He has adhd. I didn't know of his diease until after we started dating. He was 28 and I was 19 and i was until the impression that since he was older, he would be more mature. I slowly started to realize he was slightly inappropriate and a little mean at times. This behaviour only became increasingly worse. By the time i found out he has adhd i was already in love, and pain. I didn't know and still don't what to do at all. He sometimes calls me names then says later he doesnt remember doing it.

I am wondering if others have noticed that when the ADD person in a relationship gets the other person upset, angry, etc. He/she has a slight smile. 

It seems to me that he is enjoying himself (a) because he caused me upsetness; and (b) because he likes seeing me that way.

When this happens in my relationship my anger is very hard to control: I could hit him really. This and his defensiveness are the worst symptoms of his ADD for me.

I would be most interested to know about the feelings that others have when the 'secret smile' occurs in the other.