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Hi, I'm married to a man with all of the above - and we're in a mess! We've been together for 21 years and have 3 children (one with a disability) Husband was diagnosed officially with ADHD in 2021 and spent a tough 6 months trialling meds until he found one which worked. We both thought his life would get better, but things seem to have got worse? He takes antidepressants, struggles with mental health at times but does everything right to look after himself - he runs (and runs), raises money for charity, helps other people with their mental health issues.

Hi everyone, Non-ADHD partner here.

My ADHD partner and I have been together for almost six years. We love each other deeply. This past July I gave birth to our daughter, who has brought a joy into our lives neither of us can describe.

However:

well... here I am.  And hello.   I need help, I need support... I am SO tired.   I've been married to an amazing man for 27 years.  ADHD has entered our marriage for the past 3.  Although it has been present always, we've just KNOWN about it for the past 3.  And in fairness my partner's symptoms while present and I can recall times it surfaced, it has only escalated in the past several years.   We have REALLY been on the struggle bus lately and we had a HUGE fight today and we are at the point where we need to start doing some serious work.

Hello to all of you, it's truly helping to be talking to people who actually understand the struggle.

It is basically impossible to tell about my relationship with undiagnosed ex partner without mentioning the ADHD and at the same time it feels weird to be bringing it up so often in conversations.

I have been with my ADHD husband for almost 8 years and married 8 months. I love him but not as much as years ago. I have always been an organised calm happy go lucky person although I am quite a controlling person but not any more. I am taking anti depressants and having counselling I feel angry frustrated sad and tired. 

I've been married to my husband for 6 years. I had no idea anything was different about his mind when we were dating or in the first year. We were both working and contributing to the household.

I'm an ADHD woman with PTSD. My husband and I recently learned of his autism after a consistent trend in which we fight over his lack of sensitivity for my sons emotional state. My son is from a prior relationship. My husband has 2 children from his prior marriage as well but he doesn't have custody. I've been searching for audiobooks and guides to help me learn how to be happily* married to him but I can't find anything from the neurodivergent perspective and neurotypical just doesn't feel as helpful. Does anyone have experience with this that resulted in success and long term happiness?

I am writing to this forum because I feel very isolated in dealing with my ADHD husband. We have been married for 23 years and have a 24 year old daughter. My husband was diagnosed in 2020. He takes medication which he says helps his concentration but the issue we are having is that he also drinks heavily in periods and then his behaviour becomes out of control. Our daughter has always needed extra support in that she has dyslexia, adjustment disorder and an eating disorder. She has not been diagnosed with ADHD.

My partner of 10 years was recently diagnosed with ADHD after me asking him to go to a therapist for years. He finally agreed when I pointed out the impact its having on parenting our child who we suspect has also ADHD (not diagnosed). The diagnosis has helped our relationship in general because we are both more aware of and understanding of the role ADHD has in our relationship instead of taking it personally.