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It is no secret that all ADHD cases/relationships are unique. My fiance and I are making some great progress and I though I would share some of our techniques with you all. I am in no way assuming we are doing everything correct or that our system will work for you or that even tomorrow everyting won't fall apart but maybe some of our techniques can help you as well. Additionally I would love to hear what techniques you all use that work in your relationship!

My ADD husband and I purchased a "fixer-upper" a year ago.  Knowing that living in a house while remodeling would be horrible, we live a mile away in a condo.  The plans for the remodel included a complete overhaul of the kitchen (wiring & plumbing included), new windows, new exterior doors, fis plaster and paint throughout and refinishing the old hardwood floors.  Hubby is very handy and works in the construction/trades full time.  I also work full time and have two kids from my first marriage.

A few nights ago my boyfriend said he would make dinner for us some day.  When I got home the day of the promised dinner, he said he hadn't been able to go get groceries due to bad weather.  He was, however, able to buy a new video game for himself and spend the whole day playing it.  Since I was home he decided to ask me what I wanted for dinner and I said I didn't know, that the whole point for me was that I would be relieved of having to make a decision about what we were going to eat -- I didn't want to think of it now that I was hungry and tired.

After much research and many years of frustration, I believe my husband is ADHD.  He has not been officially diagnosed.  However, he has agreed to find counseling.  After he finally agreed to see a psychiatrist, I did a little more research into his specific career (law enforcement) and have discovered an ADHD diagnosis is basically career suicide.  Now what?  What's the best way to go about seeking help without jeoporadizing his career?  It's unrealistic to say, "What's more important--his career or his health" b/c even me, as miserable as I am, know that we need him to keep his job right

Hi, I am married to an ADD husband for half a year, but we've been together for longer, about 2 years. I love him very much and I know that he loves me. But like everybody knows just love is not enough for a happy marriage. He told me that he had ADD right after we met - but the thing is that I didn't know much about it at all and I didn't pay enough attention to the fact that he has it - I just thought that it's just hard for him to concentrate sometimes, I had no idea what ADD truly was and how to deal with it.

I have been married to an undiagnosed ADHD husband for 11 years.  This site makes me realize I am not crazy afterall...!  It's also a little sad because I have been living in total stress, exhaustion and chaos for SO long.  It has affected my health, my credit (I now have none), my sex life, my family, and obviously my marriage.  I am currently considering divorce. 

I have been the spouse of just over 15 years to a wife with ADHD.  Like all of the other stories I read, when we dated, all was great.  When we got married it all changed...immediately.  I found out a month after we got married that she had been sleeping with my best friend while we dated and were engaged, and the weeks before we got married, she said she slept with several men to get "it" out of her system.  She had numerous flings during our first 4 years of marriage and now that I look back, I was too young, insecure, and depressed to deal with it.  She promised me (after she was caught

I am not married, but this is the only site where I felt everyone understood what each other was going through. I have been with my partner a mere 7 months. Sounds crazy that I find it diffucult already doesnt it? But, yes. I have. I feel so unloved at times, he is the most confusing person i have ever met. I have spent hours crying at this behaviour.

I am a husbant with ADHS and it is driving a wedge between my family and me.  I have just recently found out that I have this.  Now I am taking meds. for this.  However, my wife seems like it is not helping and the communication is just not there for her eather.  She needs to talk at night and I am normaly tired at the end of the day.  She wants me to sit there and look at her for the whole time.  I can not do this with out getting sleepy eyes as she calls it.  I really do not want this to happen and i try hard but when i start to walk and keep myself awake she gets mad.

We've just posted a new forum area to which we hope you will contribute - "What Gives You Hope".  Quite a few people on this site have noticed that a lot of what gets said is negative because people who seek the site out are often really suffering.  Yet people do make real progress in their ADD relationships...so we wanted people to be able to post about it here.  What has helped you?  What does "progress" look like in your relationship?  What gives you hope?  Your ideas will help many people, so don't be shy!