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I understand that my husband with ADHD is not good with planning activities or gifts for holidays. He knows that I enjoy celebrating holidays. With Mother's Day one week away, I already bought myself a gift and made restaurant reservations but my friend invited our family to a Mother's Day brunch at her vacation home about 1 1/2 hour drive away. Our kids really enjoy her place so I asked if we could go.

I tried to stop, ill go a few days without it ans then I will be back at it again knowing how deterimental it is to my unborn baby that I don't use nicotine. He said I was a bad mother, that I didn't deserve to be one, he also said that I was poisoning his baby and he would resent me for life if anything is wrong when the baby is born. I feel so depressed, I love my baby I have waited so long to see him, I just have it hard controlling myself..and I loathe myself for it...I feel like a mountain is weighing on my heart.

Wondering what solutions any of you have. I have been married for almost 18 years and I am so tired of being 'in trouble' with my ADHD husband. Every time he gets aggravated, annoyed, frustrated he blames whoever could be responsible and it is usually me, and often our kids. We have several children from teens to preschooler.

Hello,

New here. I realized 2 years ago that my husband most likely has ADHD and that it was at play in our marriage. He very begrudgingly got a quick assessment from a therapist - a multiple choice questionnaire in the waiting room - and then was told he has anxiety. I let it go.

Cut to, two marriage counselors, one marriage retreat, and individual therapy and I can't get past that this is still at play. I am almost done listing to the book and it is EXACTLY us.

I will be bringing this up in the most careful and loving way I can in therapy on Tuesday with him.

Thank you for all your help.

What I have come to realize over the past 14 years being married to a high level add spouse is, most of my relationship related problems stems from my reactions to her life style...Melissa brings up a good point in her book about spouse's (usually the nons) who are angry, and why they are angry. And the fact this angry does in fact belong solely to the angry party....This truth can be hard to a swallow by the person who's anger is reactionary to intrusive or abusive behaviors....This was me, and still can be at times...I've come to realize that there is no easy way to continue in, and have

Never posted something like this and I'm not even sure if this is the right area to post. I'm in tears as I type this so please excuse if it sounds jumbled... My 51 yr old husband has had ADHD for most of his life - it was always mild and he functioned well in life and with his career. It was never treated in his youth. His parents just gave him a lot of hobbies and he got on with things.We've been married for nearly 20 yrs and there were only a few "episodes" that were ADHD-like over the years and I've overlooked them.

Looking for tips on dealing with RSD. My husband was recently diagnosed in his 40s (after 20 years of marriage) with ADHD. I think the most challenging aspect for me is RSD. We did several years of therapy where the therapist worked on getting my husband to own his behavior (everything was always my fault). Things got better for a few years. He would video our interactions and look for ways that he was being unkind. Recently though I went through a three month mental health crisis. During that time he was very supportive.

Hello...

Been awhile since i posted... As a quick recap, i am a non ADHD/ADD spouse in a marriage to an ADD/ADHD woman. A woman i love immensely.. Back in December my wife had a 3 day "Episode" that was the final straw... She had been abusing her Adderol in addition to Vodka... and no sleep... I cannot describe how TOXIC this combo is... I have seen it before, but not to this extent. My wife and i have been married going on 5 yrs... We have been together since late 2010.... She is an incredible woman when she's not in her MANIC ( my words) state.

So I just finished the book adhd and marriage, (and I would like to add I am not married but am in a 7 year long relationship where we have three kids, 2(ages 2 and 3) shared, 1 mine, 10, that was from before we met, he's also an adhd'er) I have suffered from adhd all of my life, from barely making it out of school to now managing and failing taking care of basic every day tasks.) I was finally diagnosed last year by a psychiatrist that tried treating my depression and anxiety before taking my adhd seriously.