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Hello,

I've just found this sight and am hoping for a little advice about my relationship. This will be a long post and I apologise for that.

My partner and I have been together for about 10 years. We have three gorgeous children. I love him dearly. He is kind and smart and patient.

We were supposed to go on holiday yesterday, but had to cancel it. My partner (who has ADHD) had terrible mood swings the day before we were supposed to go. He says it is due to a conflict with hos family (he has serious relation trauma and the family often lets him down). He got moody and angry towards me, and I felt so disappointed (this has happened several times before and we couldn´t complete our plans). We had long been looking forward to the holiday and I felt like we really needed something positive - after a year with relationship conflict and problems.

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Every year, I tell myself "I'm not going to get upset THIS year. This year, I'm going to treat MYSELF like I'm something special." And that works for a little while...and then it doesn't. My (non-ADHD) birthday was yesterday. My ADHD husband did nothing to mark it, yet again. He didn't forget...he just made no effort, not even a small one, to mark the day. 

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The video of Amy Schumer in "Noises from my Body" (on YouTube) hit me like a smack on the back of the head.  It is exagerated, but it generates the same feeling in my gut as my own situation.  I'm married to a clown and I have been trying to love him and help him.  If I love him....it is scenes from "Sounds Coming from my Body" video.  If I stand my ground and fight for my own life and integrity and self....it would be scenes from "The War of the Roses".

I'm the one doing the dishes and holding the home and family together.  

My husband (ADHD) and I (non-ADHD) have been together for 8+ years, and married 4+ years. He was diagnosed with ADHD as a child. As an adult, that diagnosis was confirmed, and also clinical depression. He went to therapy a few times, but couldn't stay consistent with it. He is now on meds for depression, but not his ADHD. I have GAD, and go to therapy weekly. Through dealing with my own crap in therapy, and some of the difficulties in my marriage, it has finally dawned on me that many of the behaviors that drive me nuts about my husband are actually textbook ADHD behaviors. 

Hello world,

I just received the ADHD Effect on Marriage book and started it last night, after seeing it recommended on an ADHD family support FB group, and visited the website this morning.
I wrote to inquire about potential counseling (if it is an available option for us), and wanted to share my message to the forum as well.
I chose this forum, but honestly I think it hits points for multiple of them- it addresses multiple ADHD/relationship topics.

I just connected the dots a couple weeks ago and realized that ADHD is most likely what I'm dealing in terms of my husband's behavior.   I've been researching and reading everything I can find online about adult ADHD, and have read The ADHD Effect on Marriage, and Is it You, Me, or Adult ADHD.  I'm having severe swings between hope and total despair.  Lots of crying when I'm alone.  I see that change CAN happen, but I'm desperately afraid it won't.  My husband is the guy who believes that "ADHD" is just an excuse people use to drug their badly behaved or hyperactive kids because they're too