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Hi Everyone,

I've never posted so bear with me. I'm an ADD husband, recently diagnosed in the last 2 years after my wife raised some of the symptoms to me. Quick bio...although I've been successful in my career, great with money/investments, an open communicator, able to share feelings/emotions I do struggle with:

Hi all,

I really regret having come to this forum so late in the game as my 8-year marriage is now coming to a close. (relationship for 13 years). I'm 38, she's 36. 

My partner, who has ADHD, has been going through the grievous sudden loss of a family member. I want to support him as well as I can. Is there anything special to the ADHD experience of mourning that I can get from collective wisdom here? 

Newbie here Hi!

First I was reading on here the other day and someone mentioned this book 

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, Or Self-Involved Parents 

Thank you to who ever mentioned it! It was like reading my whole life story. This is my relationship with my ADHD husband to a T. 

Now he has read it also but I think it flew right over his head. At least the part about what emotional connection is.

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with ADHD hoarding? I can't get into my garage, there is a path from the basement steps to the washer and dryer, and there are piles of "stuff" everywhere. I can't reason with him because he is in denial and untreated. If I try to toss anything my ADHD spouse freaks out and starts throwing my belongings out into the garbage or into the backyard. I am drowning in clutter. 

I am looking for advice or success stories. Long story short - I've been with my husband for 13 years, married for 11.5. We only realized he had ADHD last summer, and have spent the last 9 months learning a ton about it. I have been realizing how much it impacts our relationship and signed us up for the seminar from Jan - March, and had plans to work with an ADHD therapist once it wrapped.

Can anyone recommend a counselor/therapist in St. Louis, MO who works with the non-ADD spouse?  We've been married 21 years and have become more roommates raising kids together than husband and wife.  I'm looking for a resource for my wife who can give her an outlet and possibly share wisdom and tips in handling our situation.  I'm good at making our conversations all about me, and I need to find a way to focus the help on getting her in a better place.  Please let me know if you know of anyone who could help.    

I have been hoping over the past few months that I could finally see a way past my husband's constant insistence that he will make immediate changes to his lack of follow through. I am now beginning to believe that will never occur. He removed my check writing pen from my desk for the umpteenth time and I had a melt down yesterday; I fully admit that I acted inappropriately.

About a month ago my wife told me she wasn't "in love with me" anymore. I had no idea things were so bad! It shattered my world. She said she still loved me and wanted to be my wife and was hopeful we coulD work through it.

The first week of rebuilding went great but then we had a falling out because of something I said. She misinterpreted my feelings and things went downhill.

I have read several books and am very grateful for their insights.  Yet, I am the non-ADHD partner and some days wonder if I will truly ever have a companion, someone to confide in or that is even capable of loving me back.  We actually live separately at the moment (due to work) and it has been a blessing to be reminded of what is important to me and who I actually am (that person has been lost for some time).  It has also provided a window to see just how chaotic/drama-filled he makes his life and how much his adult children add to it.  He is 55, probably ADHD his whole life based on stor