To you, the distraction, trouble following through and general struggle suggest ADHD. Plus, you have kids who’ve been diagnosed with ADHD. Yet your partner refuses that he (or she) shows all the signs. What do you do?
When I talk about lying problems in relationships, I'm not just talking about partners with ADHD. Either partner can lie...and lies also exist in relationships in which there is no ADHD. But there are some ways that the presence of ADHD increases the chances that one or the other partner will lie. To be able to chart the best course to move away from lying in your own relationship, you must first understand why the lying is happening.
Your mindset can make all the difference when you are in a relationship with an ADHD partner.
I want to share a note from the spouse of an ADHD partner who, after discovering ADHD was a factor in his crumbling marriage, decided to try to be more open to his wife's 'way of being' and experiences.
I've read so many comments on the Forum recently about ADHD partners/spouses who seem to have problems with anger, and in some cases..rage. I can certainly appreciate how difficult it is to live with someone who seems to get triggered into this kind of reaction without a substantial reason. Melissa recently wrote an article on just this topic in EMax Health. Research done in Feb. seems to suggest that those with ADHD may be genetically predisposed to what is called "emotional lability." This is just a fancy term for moodiness, ie. irritability, or a short fuse...anger responses.
Are you in an ADHD relationship and feel as if there is no clear path out of your anger? Do you have specific ADHD questions? Register for the Virtual ADHD Conference, and join Melissa and Dr. Hallowell to have your questions answered and learn more about ADHD!