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I've been silently reading posts on here for almost a year now. I've been trying to hold out from posting because I know my situation is extreme but I am truly at a loss right now. My husband told me he has ADHD from day 1. He's never been medicated since his mom didn't want him to be a "pill popper" (a sentiment he agrees with strongly). I'm 19, he's 20. He's in the military, I'm a full time student.
 

Hello all. ADHD spouse here. My challenges have destroyed my marriage, and my life. My wife is leaving and taking our 3 kids with her. When we talked she told me about how she couldn't trust me anymore because of all the times before, that I said I'd do this better or do that better and whatever efforts I had put forward weren't enough or didn't last. I just hope all of you understand that when you say you're done, and your spouse says they'll do better, it's BECAUSE they care about you and don't want to lose you. And in that moment, them doing better is all they want in the world.

Am I dealing with a partner with ADHD? I noticed that my husband does the following:

Hi all,

I have been telling my wife for weeks that she has not been keeping track of appointments on our shared calendar or her own calendar.  For example, just before the stay at home period started, she had made an appointment with our couples counselor and forgot to tell me about it.  I stopped off at the drug store on the way home to find her not there.  Our daughter thought she was at a store.  When she got back, I THEN found out that there had been a couples appointment that i would have needed to drive to immediately after work in order to make it.  Worse still, she forgot about the appointm

I feel very stuck. There has been so much long lasting hurt and anger, caused by actions that continue. I have no idea how to summon up the inclination to change myself as part of the process to save our marriage. I really need to see changes in my ADHD partner first to move forward. I realize this isn't how I should be approaching things, it's just so difficult. How can I shift my mindset and move past the hurt and anger?

I had at first spewed out some unhappy thoughts here which is not what we need today. Then I replaced it with this:

I will be meditating and prayerful today toward acceptance and strength and wholeness during our time of separateness this Easter Sunday.

Do you have a personal method of calming and enjoying being by yourself, feeling sure-footed or just not alone?

Do you remember a small activity that gave you the quiet feeling of celebrating "just being"?

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Hi All...I've entered a new phase of life when it comes to the relationship (the suppose to be marriage) that I've been in the past 12 years....I've read many of your post over the past (6) years as you have mine....In mine, and most of you guy's, there has been very very few happy endings....As I set here w/ my coffee this morning (reading a few post) the reason for the lack of happy endings is pretty clear to me....It's selfish based priorities;...Just like one of the last posters was stating about her husband....Overboard and thoughtless when it comes to sex in the marriage....So many of

Any of you who have been married to a high level add/adhd person in denial for any length of time now, know's that this physical and social distancing is no big deal for the most part....We live that way everyday in our own homes.....I'm sorry for those who are hurting and suffering...Hopefully the world will come out of this stronger, with a better sense of what is truly important....

Bless you all....

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